To be kept waiting

[DefinitelyOdd]

I arranged to meet a friend at ten. I have been at the arranged meeting place for an hour and thirty five minutes. I have had no response to my texts. Aibu in just leaving and ignoring any texts for the rest of the day?

(For what its worth i have just finished a very stressful night shift, haven't had any sleep and gave up today to help this friend write her CV. I am not normally this passive aggressive.)

She doesn't like to answer her phone? Even to her friend?

It's crap when people do this. You should have waited for much less time than you did, but I've learned the hard way myself...

One of my friends did this to me a few years ago. Ds was with me in his pram, and we were meeting for lunch and a mooch around town. I was really looking forward to seeing her. She kept me waiting for 2 hours. This was 5 years ago now and I haven't bothered arranging anything with her since.

I made the effort to see her after not seeing her for ages, despite me being tired and busy with a baby. She was child free and was too busy with her boyfriend to keep to the arranged time we agreed. Eventually she turned up and we had half an hour together, but it was late on and I wanted to get home, and I wasn't as cheerful as I was hours earlier. She didn't seem bothered at all.

You sound like a lovely friend OP. I wouldn't have waited 30 mins.

Let us know what her excuse was!

Apparently she was on her way. But she then got tagged in her sister's facebook status saying she was out for breakfast with her.

The thing is if she had just said that she wanted to go out with her sister then that would have been fine.

Urgh! People!

Don't bother making any arrangements with her again! She obviously has no respect for other's time. Awful woman.

She has told you what she thinks of you. Make sure that you listen.....

What? She left you dangling to have breakfast with her sister? Seriously...that's bad patter.

Mind you, I have no idea why you hung about for over an hour and a half waiting for her.

Are you a bit of a pushover? If so, stop with that shit and have some self respect.

Do not make any more arrangements with the bloody woman. And make sure to tell her why.

Oh that's awful. I hope you called her out on it you deserved better for trying to help.

Keeping anyone waiting for an hour and a half is dreadful.

But keeping a friend, who is meeting you for your benefit when she has just got off a night shift, waiting is 10 times worse.

You need to tell her that you're not happy with her behaviour. If you do decide to still help her with her CV (and I'd be inclined not to!) make sure it's on your terms.

I wouldn't give her a second of help with her CV after that. Tell her to find some other mug to completely disregard.

Hope you went home and didn't wait for her. I used to have a friend like this, we'd tell her an hour later for the meeting me she'd still be an hour late! I find it rude, selfish and we're no longer friends for various other reasons.

That's awful of her to do that, I wouldn't go out my way to help her again!

no point helping her with her CV.

If she had not mastered the basic skills of punctuality and communication she won't last long even if she does get a job. In your situation I'd probably be irritated enough to tell her that too.

hope you got a good sleep OP.

Cherry I can relate. I used to have a friend who turned up a great deal late every time for everything and who thought nothing of keeping people hanging about, holding them up and wasting their time. She was good company and very dear to me so I tolerated it for a long time. Eventually though, she pushed me too far, too often to the point I began to feel like an utter fool hanging about like a saddo with nothing better to do.

Well I'm not a saddo with nothing else to do so she had to go. Like with you there was more to it than that...but you get the gist.

What a complete and utter letdown she is OP, don't waste anymore of your precious time waiting around for her. 😡