to not want to go to cousin's hen night?

[saltire]

My cousin (well she is actually my cousin's daughter) is getting married in April - different thread there i think. Her hen night is in March, at 2pm on a Friday afternoon. Her sister called me last night to invite me along. When i asked if we were having a good day/night out in Edinburgh because it was starting so early she said no.
It is being held at that time because
A) 6 children are going
B) All the women in the chuirch my cousins go to are going, most of them are over 50, andthe hen night couldn't be held on a Saturday as they all have church the next day.
Also, my cousin said, because the ladies from teh church were going, it would be unfair if the drinkers among us (mainly me and my 2 cousins!) had alcohol, so it's to be totally tee total, consists of a game of bowling and then home!

It means me giving up a day of work, travelling on the train, then going back again on the train.
I also don't think children should go to hen nights, or IMO older(much much older) people, but maybe i am just being a bit petty

Blimey, it sounds painfully dreary. I'd have a very urgent work meeting that I couldn't possibly get out of, and breathe a big sigh of relief!

saltire you can just say that you can't let down the parents of the children you mind - obviously they should appreciate this selfless attitude.

They sound like loons! I'd give the whole ghastly thing a miss. It's not like any of them are going to be bosom buddies, what with your sweary words and all...!

It sounds like an utter nightmare

However I think it depends on your relationship with the bride-to-be - how important is it to her that you are there to celebrate (in the loony manner of her choosing which is after all her prerogative) the end of her single life?

Scottish thistle, I did actually.
molesworth, i do get on really well with the bride, she is my cousin's daughter and her mum died 7 years ago when she was 16, the same age i was when my dad died, so we have alot in common, she turned to me when her mum died. However, she is very strong in her faith and this does sometimes cause friction. Her brother who has turned 16 has completely rebelled, told his dad and sisters that he is legally old enough to get married so he is legally old enought o decide he doesn't want to spend his whole weekend i bible classes, or every holiday in Peru or Brazil doing charity work.

Agree with Bozza - surely it would be unchristian of you to let down your mindees' parents?
Personally I would rather spend the afternoon depilating my legs with a pair of rusty tweezers.

Good for you! (pats you on the back!)

I mean- it's not my cup of tea for an evening but I think it's obviously about what the bride to be wants and if that's what she wants to do then yeah I think you go along with that. At the end of the day you go to a hen because you care about the bride to be not because you just fancy a night out? So yeah I'd go if it were me and just accept that's her idea of fun.

Really? 2007? 🤣

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Fuck that!