To leave MIL to get on with it?

[SpaceToad]

When we visit the PIL, MIL runs around after DH and FIL, cups of tea, cooking everything etc, and is gradually expecting me to join her in running around after the menfolk.
I'm not doing it. I've let her run round as usual and joined DH and FIL in sitting around and not helping. MIL has made it clear she isn't too happy with me. I have ignored it. I really really don't want to perpetuate this sexist nonsense! Especially as DS is getting to understand a bit if what's going on and I have arguements with DH at home about his lack of domestic input. He does little cooking and little washing and has to be told what chores need to be done.
So WIBU to add to MIL's workload? Especially as she babysitted for us!

[diddl]

If she asks you to help with something & you don't want to argue, at the very least make sure that your husband helps as well as you.

Does she actually ask you to help then or more huff & puff & give pointed looks?

[PNGirl]

To those saying this isn't a MIL issue; It's not all on FIL and DH though, is it? If she's only giving pointed looks and "Ahem"ing at OP because she's a woman then a pointed verbal nudge to DH to get up will address both issues at once.

I've had to bounce back efforts from MIL to ask me to send the millions of cards she insists we send (Mother's day cards to all relatives who are mums, not just DH's mum etc). I just say I'll pass her request on to DH.

[SpaceToad]

diddl occasionally asks. More huffs etc.
PNgirl me too!