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To detest the word(s) gifting/gifted

25 replies

Approximateh0usewife · 16/11/2016 12:43

Reminds me too much of the kardashians.

What's wrong with giving and receiving?

OP posts:
mickeyjohn · 16/11/2016 13:05

Yes yes yes! When did it become a verb?!!!! Arghh!

claraschu · 16/11/2016 13:06

Horrible words. I also hate gifted when applied to children. Ugh.

Guitargirl · 16/11/2016 13:10

I don't even like the word 'gift'. It just sounds like people trying to make their presents sound posher.

iklboo · 16/11/2016 13:13

Gift means poison in German. Gifting / gifted makes me think of nefarious practices.

SheSparkles · 16/11/2016 13:15

YANBU. Add it to birthing/birthed. Also "we're pregnant"

DustyOwl · 16/11/2016 13:25

I wince every time I hear, however no one around me seems to mind. Confused

HarmlessChap · 16/11/2016 13:27

But gift has been used as a verb for centuries and is also listed in the OED as a verb so really YABU, it may not be awfully common but its not grammatically incorrect.

waterrat · 16/11/2016 13:30

Thought u were referring to gifted children. I really dislike that. As if all children aren't gifted . Sorry...not what you meant !

donkey86 · 16/11/2016 13:30

Agreed. Gave, not gifted.

limitedperiodonly · 16/11/2016 13:36

I hate it too.

Topseyt · 16/11/2016 13:54

Sorry, but it isn't wrong at all. Gift can be used as either a noun or a verb.

In the legal and financial world "to gift" and "to give" have slightly different meanings.

If you "gift" money then it is considered a gift and you are not expecting it back.

However, you would "give" someone a loan (and expect repayments). A loan is not gifted because it is not a gift.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 16/11/2016 13:58

I don't mind gifting or gift.

Grab, on the other hand..... "Can I grab a ticket from you tomorrow?" "Shall we grab a sandwich?"

No!

EdmundCleverClogs · 16/11/2016 14:00

In terms of giving presents, I can see it being used e.g.

'I was going to lend these baby clothes to my friend, but decided I'd gift them to her instead' - therefore defining the difference between giving as in lending as opposed to giving with no expectation of a return.

'Gifted children', as a phrase, can fuck right off though.

myfavouritecolourispurple · 16/11/2016 14:41

OP - you are so right.

Some of these things are just bandwaggoning - this is one, "curate" is another (what's wrong with choose or select) and another one is "impacting" instead of "affecting".

I was going to lend these baby clothes to my friend, but decided I'd gift them to her instead

What's wrong with

I was going to lend these baby clothes to my friend, but decided I'd give them to her instead?

I think it's still clear from the context.

HarmlessChap · 16/11/2016 15:02

Some of these things are just bandwaggoning

AIBU to hate when people shorten phrases such as jumping on the band wagon into one portmanteau word such as bandwagoning (even if the also spell it wrong) Grin

Theoretician · 16/11/2016 15:21

We've had this exact topic before. As has already been pointed out on this one, gifting and giving do not necessarily have exactly the same meaning.

Theoretician · 16/11/2016 15:25

I was going to lend these baby clothes to my friend, but decided I'd gift them to her instead

There's nothing wrong with replacing "gift" with "give" in that sentence, but there is also nothing wrong with "gift" in the first place. Presumably it just grates because it's less familiar. If people use it more often, it will stop grating, and a useful word with a slightly more specific meaning won't be driven out of the language.

I reckon though of us who care about language have a duty to use "gift" instead of "give" whenever it's appropriate. (I admit I never use it though.)

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 16/11/2016 15:30

Sourced and gifted both irritate me. Stop making a meal out of everything! You bought a present, you are not the Messiah!

ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess · 16/11/2016 15:45

Yes to both sourced and gifted! Horrible words.

Mondegreens · 16/11/2016 16:03

They both make me want to scream, tbh -- there's a kind of wide-eyed mummy-blogger virtue-signalling going on that I find really fucking annoying. 'Gave' is perfectly clear as an alternative to 'lent'. And 'gift' meaning 'present' just makes me think of gold, frankincense and myrrh, rather than a cheap Body Shop bodywash and loofah.

HeyRobot · 16/11/2016 17:15

purple I had to read that a second time as the first time I was confused why you hated a member of the clergy Grin

BertrandRussell · 16/11/2016 17:20

Not quite as bad as "snacking".......

MatchyMatcha · 16/11/2016 17:21

It's better than ' sourced ' which will forever send you to my fucking pretentious twat category, with no chance of return.
I heard ' re-imagined ' the other day, which is a fancy way of saying ' up-cycled ' or ' re-purposed ' apparently, like those two words weren't bad enough. ffs.

BertrandRussell · 16/11/2016 17:23

When I was young "gift" and "present" were toilet/loo words.

Yamadori · 16/11/2016 17:23

'Gifting' might be an actual word but it is still sets my teeth on edge.
Not quite as grim as 'Signage' though Grin

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