To find it odd my brother still calls family friends

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Auntie and Uncle?

Mostly they are a very distant relative but he calmly tells me he saw Auntie Carol and Uncle Colin in Tesco.

I am 35 and he is 38 ffs!

Nothing wrong with referring to family friend as auntie or uncle OP. I do it.

Whilst I agree with you, I do love the justification that there is nothing wrong with doing it because you do it!

I think it's a bit like those primary school teachers that will only ever be Mrs Magoo or Mr Magee. No matter that they've told you that you can call them Mary or John and you are now a fully fledged adult, it just feels wrong to call them by their first name.

Aw I didn't mean anything bad by it; I just thought it was funny am surprised how many of you do it though

DH is 60 and still refers to his parent's friends as. Aunty and Uncle. Drives me fucking nuts.

I always call my family by their titles until they ask me not to because it is a sign on respect. We don't stop calling our parents Mum and Dad just we are grown up so it just feels the same.

I've got aunties and uncles who are friends of my parents and I still call them Auntie Linda and so on. My brother doesn't do it any more, so when he talks about Linda I always have to ask him who he's talking about.

To me her name is Auntie Linda, always has been, always will be.

So sorry, YABU, to me at least, obviously my brother thinks I'm the crazy one.

well I am 52 and love calling my aunt 'Auntie' (without a name).

I was also very upset at my Auntie Mary's funeral a couple of years ago...(old next door neighbour).

Isthiscorrect Mine are Mammy and Daddy. DH has always called his Mum and Dad. I am not-so-secretly glad that we moved to the NE where they also say Mammy, or at least Mam, so I can be a Mammy and not a Mum (as you can guess from my username)

I have an Aunty Agnes who is actually my late grandmother's oldest friend. My DM who is in her sixties calls her Aunty too, it would seem odd not to after all these years.

I think it's completely normal. It's what he's grown up calling them. DH & I still refer to people who we've always known as Aunties & Uncles as that (whether they're actually an A or U or not).

Not calling my aunt, Auntie would be as weird as not longer calling my mum, mum and referring to her by her name.

I'm intergued as to when you are supposed to stop? Do you suddenly turn 18 and become unable to refer to your aunts as auntie.

DP thinks I'm weird btw, he refers to all his by their name but from what I can gather they never did it to their parents

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...their parents siblings. And his nieces and nephews call him by his first name, I think it's so strange! I can't wait to get the title of Auntie Penguin :)

I do it too and I am 43. I have a number of elderly aunts and uncles and I can't imagine using just their first names. They are all people who are close to my parents and I think it is a way of saying "we may not be related, but we're as good as" and extending the family tie. They are all people who loved my DBS and I as kids and my parents are auntie and uncle to their kids too. It is part of being a herd (to misquote Ice Age).

Interestingly I am only called aunty rat by two kids. Their mum is my bestie and lost her own parents at a very early age. She is very attached to my parents and DBS so I think she is subconsciously making sure her kids are part of our herd too..

Basically I think it is a very nice thing and carries a lot of important and loving meaning.

I'm friends on FB with one of my old teachers. We chat a lot but I still call him Mr ..... despite leaving school 22 years ago. Calling him by his first name would be weird!

My family's a bit mixed on this. Aunts and uncles on mum's side were always aunt name etc. But my mum called them just by first names, so I did that too when talking about them. Only one left now - I recently heard myself calling aunt in her 80s Aunt Name, yet i know if my sib and I talk about her we just use her name. And she always signs cards or introduces herself on phone and so forth as just her name. Mum's cousins also called aunt/uncle name.

Aunt and uncle on dad's side always signed cards etc as names only. They are dead now but I think i just called them nothing! oodles of great aunts and uncles in that family in my childhood. Always aunt this and aunt that. Dad's cousins, some not much older that I am (in 50s), always jsut first names - and I often talk of them as cousins, though technically they are 2nd cousins?

In both my and dh's families, we just use first names - but I notice 2 of my dc call my bro and sil aunt and uncle, even though they've never had any encouragement from me. In dh's family his eldest niece is less than 10 yrs younger than me. She calls me auntie only as a joke.

We never referred to family friends as Aunt and Uncle, butt I would still refer to my actual aunts and uncles by title. We also referred to our first cousins as Cousin Christian Name. And still do....

Nope my kids married with kids and in their 20s still call my best friend aunty Wendy

My DH's cousin is in his 30s and came to Britain 12 years to study and has never left. He meets my parents at family functions regularly and will always address them as 'Auntie' and 'Uncle' as in his culture it's seen as respectful toward elder extended family and friends. My parents think it's delightful and I agree with them. Surely that kind of consideration is more inclusive, respectful and friendly that calling by the name their neighbours and colleagues would use?

I still call my real and acquired aunts "Auntie". They're in their 80s and it's a sign of affection and respect. It gives me a frisson as I say their names, knowing that they won't be around to cherish for much longer.

I also get slightly miffed when my (adult) nephews call me by my first name only, but hey ho, times have changed.

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I think it's nice, it shows respect and a lot of older people like me actually like being referred to as 'Aunty'. I always told my DS to address his friends parents as Mr/Mrs X until invited to use first names.

I am nearly 60 and met up with some of my parents' friends recently - all in their 80s and 90s - of course they told me to use their first names but it still felt odd !!

I like old fashioned manners .

I don't see anything odd about it.

A friend of mine is 60 and often chats to me about her Auntie Jean (actually a family friend). If she started calling her 'Jean' I'd wonder who the fuck she was talking about.

On a side note, in India it's a mark of respect to your elders to call them Auntie/Uncle irrespective of whether you are related.

I have 3 nephews and 1 niece (officially)
And 4 others, all over 21, who always call me Auntie KatieScarlett. Known and loved them all since birth, see them all the time, never let a life event of theirs go uncelebrated...
I am lucky to have them.

I switched to first names around the time I had my kids I think? So early twenties.

However there have been elderly aunts you never ever call just by their first name. The whole family says auntie every time.