First one: We live at the bottom of a small cul de sac entered from a small road with a path across it for pedestrians. Normally cars from the main street park long the road to the left with a cars width space for us to drive in and out. There are 5 houses in the cul de sac all with drives and garages. I try to drive off the cul de sac to find that a car is parked adjacent to the ones already parked to the left completely blocking the exit. It looks as if the person did not bother to look in front of them and see the houses in front and assumed that was the end of the road so parked there. I had to get to school (3 miles away) to pick up DC. Ran up and down the road knocking on doors to see who's car it was as did not recognise. No one knew who's it was. Finally decide to call the police to see if they will tow as no idea how long it could be there. After 30 mins (on hold to police) person with NHS badge walks over and realises what she has done. She had been to a house much further down the road and there were spaces in front of the house! She says 'ooh, sorry'. I was furious by then and I tell her that she's lucky as I had hoped she would get a penalty for obstructing the road when the police came and how could she not be aware of the houses with garages front of her to show it was a road she had blocked. I was now late for my DCs. She says 'sorry for my mistake again, can I do anything to help'. I say 'bloody well move your car'. She then tells me I am very rude and drives off! I did talk loudly but did not shout/swear. Neighbours looking out of windows etc.
Scenario 2: DS2 (age 14) has severe learning difficulties and has just got an EHC Plan (without school support). Last few years have been a nightmare as he has behavioural issues arising from the LD due to immaturity, lack of reasoning, understanding etc and is very socially awkward and says inappropriate things. School have been awful, trying to make it a parenting issue, and wanted rid of him as they didn't know what to do with him as not severe enough bad behaviour for expulsion. Now we an EHCP they are trying harder to help him and have a new SENCO who seems to want to make him his pet project. Last week in a meeting, he asked if he could make DS his case study for his further training (anonymous). I said fine if it helped the school understand DS more. Later in the meeting he asked me if I knew what Attachment Disorder was and said that some kids are dragged up etc but he could see that DS had not been but was there anything in his early years that could explain it. I do know what AD is and was shocked that he might be inferring that DS had that. I have now decided not to let him use DS as his case study and have emailed him telling him that and that I will not cooperate in further parent blaming for DS's difficulties.
I am very anxious at the moment and go over and over these things in my head. WIBU in both of these scenarios?