To be concerned that this child was able to leave the school

[bookeatingboy]

At dts's primary school they line up in the playground and CT's lead them into their respective classes. Head usually (not everyday) stands at gate.

I always wait in the playground as dts1 has ASD, so I need to see him go into class. Coming out of playground when I see a child from dt1's class darting across the playground in the direction of the exit gate (only one way in/out). This child has behavioural problems and special needs (although not sure what type). He ran straight past head who was having a laugh with a pregnant mum.

I'm pretty sure that due to my own personal circumstances I'm more tuned in to seeing this type of thing because of dts1 and having to have eyes in the back of my head but it would appear that I was the only person noticing him. I followed him out the gate and he went darting down the street at which point I ran back into school to alert them but head had gone in, ran to the office to tell them and came straight again. He was walking down the busy road and any attempts to call him were met with "fuck off"!

Not one person came out from the school and thankfully by the time he had got to the end of the road his dad came walking in the other direction. He too was met with a mouthful of abuse and at this point I left them too it.

Now I've come home concerned that firstly no one from school came out when I alerted them and secondly how the hell did all of the CT's not see him running towards the gate. I know it's busy but I saw him quite clearly and although he's YR4, he is very small so only looks YR2 at most.

Bookeating just a word of caution. When you raise this with the HT try to do it in a can you reassure me this wouldn't happen with Ds. HT's do not react well to parents telling them how to do things.

The problem is , and I say this as the parent of an ASD child. The HT has a whole school of children to be concerned about and the CT has a whole class so the ASD kids do not get the same concern as they would from a parent. Also because teachers spend less time with them they are less likely to predict a meltdown in advance.

ASD parenting is hard work.

Yes, the bit where you intervene is BEFORE the child is off premises though! That's when they are your responsibility and every school has a member of staff on gate duty.

At what age is letting them wander off freely ok? Year 1? Angry nursery child, just leave the gate open and once they are off they are off?

I've also seen false allegations from staff over the years during redundancy or competency proceedings, but I also still treat others as fundamentally decent.

Obviously you intervene to the level at which you can do so without putting your job at risk Some students will not follow instructions and will continue with their attempts to walk out no matter what you do. I would not restrain them if I believed doing so could lead to an accusation of assault. Also as the CT, I don't control whether the gates are open, which, at dropping off time, they will be. And every school does not have a member of staff on gate duty. In the playground the children are the responsibility of their parents. Once in class, the expectation is that they remain there. I have seen many schools where nobody is manning the gates constantly.

Inever This would hopefully never happen with dts1 since I wait until he is safely in the classroom before leaving and collect him from the classroom in the afternoon. That said he has run out of the classroom before during a meltdown but wasn't able to get out of the school gate since it's always locked during the day

outraged haha... loitering at the school gates What a truly fabulous imagination you must have to have gleamed all that information about me from words that were never even written by me.

For your information I work from home, and this morning I'm glad I do because it meant I was able to intervene to help this child, (even if he didn't appreciate it) get back to the safety of school rather more quickly than he might have done otherwise. So if this makes me a busy body in your eyes that's a label I'm quite happy to wear.

And as for finding a hobby, already have one thanks!