Just briefly, my husband and I found out that a singer we both like is in tour next year, so we decided to see how much tickets would be. After looking we realised that we couldn't really afford to spend that much (around £200 for both) on two tickets just now due to personal circumstances (dh is is currently not working, except a few shifts here and there at the place he used to work to cover people, but there is no permanent position available), and I'm only a student, so it's been tough).
Anyway we accepted that we can't go and that was the end of it. The next day dh asked if I was disappointed we couldn't go. So being honest I said, "of course it's disappointing we can't go, but we haven't really got that sort of money right now, so it's fine, no point still thinking about it, it won't change anything".
Then he started saying that I was being selfish and unfair and that I was annoyed because I didn't get my own way. And that he tries his best but nothing is ever good enough. And that it's not his fault we can't go.
I never once said it was his fault, or my fault. It's just circumstances right now. I'd never just expect him to pay for something like that anyway. He asked me a question, I answered honestly - yes I was disappointed, but accepted there's nothing we can do about it.
So who was BU? Me or him?