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Should I live alone or in a flat share

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Singyourheartout · 12/11/2016 09:23

I posted about my flat mate a while ago, i dunno how to add the link. I have had a terrible time with them. After Christmas I need to start looking for somewhere to stay as I and going to study a masters. My question would I be U to live on my own. Studio flat 650 a month, good and easy area for me to get a job and to get to uni. My only problem if I'm scared I will be too lonely a sink into depression as I don't have a ton of friends and will only have one friend and my boyfriend in the area as most people will go home after graduation. My best friend want to move in with me but I feel that would ruin our friendship so want to avoid it. I'm gonna try and make friends next year but I worried if I get a flat of my own my mental health might suffer. The alternative is to get a house share but I don't want to go through what I had this year. Does anyone have advice?

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Singyourheartout · 12/11/2016 13:13

I don't have mental health problems persay but I have mild anxiety, nothing that need medicating but I worry that living alone would make it worse. But that being said living in a flat share has given me slight anxiety panics.
Reading this thread has given me a lot to think about! I would really love to live on my own and think I would flourish but I think I want to push myself out there and meet new people but at the same time I don't want another bout of horrible people to live with especially in my masters. I might try and do it for masters then go in flat share for PhD

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WLF46 · 12/11/2016 13:16

You won't regret living alone. Yes you need friends around you, but even a house share with the best of friends becomes a living hell. The need for solitude and privacy on your own terms is just as essential for your mental health as socialising is.

If you are concerned about not knowing people, try to get out there and be more active. You mention uni so I assume you're 20-ish? If so, having your own place will be a massive magnet for friends. Increasingly fewer young people have the ability to invite their friends over for dinner, to watch a film etc, without them needing to get permission from housemates or parents first.

If you find that you genuinely dislike living alone, there is nothing to prevent you from moving back into a houseshare in six months or a year from now.

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