to be annoyed that school has indoctrinated my child into believing that he should get a valentine's card
Twiglett · 13/02/2007 08:44
valentine's day / cards is about romantic love
I do not want him to want a valentines from me
it is for grown-ups not children
I really wish teachers would think concepts through
percypig · 13/02/2007 08:52
How awful - I really dislike this - seems to be an American thing where the children bring in cards for practically the whole class. It just turns into a bit of poularity contest, especially in secondary school.
Aside from that, I agree it's ridiculous to lead children to expect/want a card. Although children can obvously love people, in my opinion if there is any value in Valentine's Day it's in adults taking the time to express their love - which is quite a serious thing, and trivialising it can lead to a skewed attitude to love and relationships - in my opinion!
nearlythree · 13/02/2007 08:52
I totally agree. I got slaughtered for on here recently for objecting to the Valentine's disco at dd1's school - it is for grown-ups not children, perfectly put. (btw, dd1 went in the end!)
We love each other and our friends and family all the year round. We don't need a 'special day' in order to let them know.
Pixel · 13/02/2007 13:47
It does seem to be an american thing for children to send valentines cards. If you watch many cartoons you will see it over and over - even Little Bear which is for toddlers had an episode where he made cards and gave them out. I've always found it slightly odd. Luckily, all valentines day means to dd is that she will be packed off to bed early so dh and I can have a nice steak dinner in peace .
OrmIrian · 13/02/2007 14:32
Valentine's day is boll*cks anyway. So I don't think it is possible to trivialise it any more than it already is. I can't think of a day when I'd be less likely to want to show love for anyone TBH especially my DH who has been through so much with me.
The children can keep it thanks.
Elasticwoman · 13/02/2007 14:41
Will you be letting your child's teacher/school know how you feel, Twiglett?
If so you may very well get a rude, belittling reply and the oh you're making our difficult job so much harder attitude ...
but they will probably take more notice of you than they admit, and drop the whole thing next year.
wannaBeWhateverIWannaBe · 13/02/2007 14:47
my ds will be waiting a bloody long time if he wants a valentine card from me. Mind you, so will my dh
Over commercialized rubbish IMO and this notion of children giving/receiving valentine cards is just a load of cobblers peddled by hallmark to up their sales.
It's my birthday on Saturday, my dh can spend the money then.
as an aside, I wonder if you compared the amount of spending on valentines, to the same items bought on a different day of the year, how much more the valentines spending would be given the over inflated prices of flowers etc.
twelveyeargap · 13/02/2007 15:26
It's so irritating. I got "abuse" from the man who sits next to me at work becuase I do not send my DD a Valentine's card in the post. FFS. I pointed out that as she goes to an all-girls school, and there aren't any boys outside of the famly who know her address, that she would either know it was from me, or have to assume it was from an existing female friend, which might be a little disconcerting at age 11. He said, "it was only a bit of fun". I said it was setting her up for future disappointment by putting too much emphasis on a "Hallmark Holiday".
He sends his wife a Valentine's card from his two sons. It's very, very odd IMO. Is this the one day of the year that incest is acceptable?
Catbabymummy · 13/02/2007 15:41
Valentine's Day is supposed to be an opportunity for someone to anonymously declare their love for someone who is unaware of their feelings. Sadly it is now for smug couples sopping over each other and buying uselss overpriced presents. I hated VDay when I was single, because I used to feel crap and alone. So I vowed that when I was in a relationship I would never celebrate VDay. I have been with my dh for 6 years, married to him over three years, and we have never once celebrated Vday.
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