Party

[LadyAEIOU]

ExW has just text DH stating that DSS has a bday party Monday and DSS wants DH to take him (ExW can take him and has simply explained DSS has asked for DH). I have to work that day and the drive is a one hour trip 5-6pm. Don't really want 6 month old in the car whilst it's cold and dark because DSS would rather be driven by dad. Is this unreasonable? Would be fine if I could be with DD but am back at work (KIT day whilst on maternity).

ExW hasn't been demanding btw it's more I am wondering if IBU by asking DH to say no as don't want DD in the car for an hour in the cold and dark for DSS to go to a party (mum has him weekdays so it isn't DH making arrangements and then not keeping to them - if already arranged I wouldn't be going back to work).

That's a good point didi as if it was DD I would go with the most convenient. Rather than DH doing this trip for 10 min in total time with his son would it be better for DH to arrange to pick DSS up from school and take him out for a couple of hours instead?

Pick him up a different day, not have DSS miss his party.

So you all think it's a good idea for the baby to have its routine messed about with so that the dad can take to the party?

I wouldn't. I'd happily suggest he spends some extra time with his son though as he may well be feeling a little jealous of the baby.