DD punched, what is the expected discipline?

[wheresmyfairygodmother]

My DD (KS2) was punched in the tummy today by a fellow classmate (along with 2 other kids). The boy has a history of behaviour issues. I was informed when I arrived at school for something later during the day, rather than contacted at the time.

I was told the boy was sent to the Head & told off & lost fun time on Friday. I can't help feel this was handled differently to how I would've liked. AIBU to think the school should've contacted me at the time & should've contacted the boys parents to send him home?

He wasn't even made to apologise to my DD

What's other people's experience following such an event? I should add the boy does martial arts so a punch would have force.

The point is we don't know how serious the punch was; what the context was or the age of the children so jumping to a suggestion that the OP should call the police is a bit premature.

As a comparison, at school today my DS (yr 3) stopped a yr4 from continuing to punch a yr2 in the stomach - the yr4 got a detention with the scary deputy head.

My ds does martial arts. If he uses his skill outside dojo, he will be made to quit, since your hands are considered as weapon.

If the police were called out for every incident like this then the already stretched service would just crumble. What a stupid suggestion.

When DS was in year 5 I had a call from the deputy head at 3pm to tell me ds had been involved in an incident at lunch time with another boy. She was unable to tell me the name of the other boy or his punishment only that it was severe.

When I picked ds up I found out another boy had got him in a headlock and punched him in the face completely unprovoked. The boy has known behavioural problems and a long history of violent incidents with other children.

He was suspended for 3 days. I made it very clear that whilst I understood they couldn't discuss the boy and how they dealt with him in school they absolutely had to reassure me on how they were keeping ds safe from future harm, which they did.

The school have a duty of care to keep your daughter safe. I would go down the route of asking them to clearly show how they are going to do that. Good luck.

They are 8. It's not bullying as it's an isolated incident, in the sense of it not being a systematic regular thing. Next wk it could be someone else. This wk my DD happened to be the one stood near him when he flipped. They were waiting for a lesson in the corridor as they're setted for some subjects so move between classes. No teacher there for moving between classrooms adjacent to each other I believe.

I totally agree on reflection that pursuing the boy in terms of his consequences is futile. My approach needs to be about safeguarding my DD. She was hurt by his punch. She isn't scared to go back to school but doesn't want to be anywhere near him. Nor would I. He was allowed to sit next to her in class later on today which she didn't like so this is something I'll raise.

If I was you I would keep an eye on it. Go in and explain the behaviour towards your daughter was unacceptable. Tell your daughter to steer clear of the boy. Also to keep nearer teachers at playtime. As my ds ended up getting hurt when out of teachers sight,and the boy doing it knew very well what he was doing.
The problem is she may well retaliate (my son did after a year) and they end up in trouble too.

Definately go in and raise your concerns. Especially when others are getting hurt too

I think your approach is very sensible op and yes I would definatly tell the school your dd is not to be sat near him.

It sounds like poor supervision to me. If the boy is getting wound up enough to punch random people when moving between classrooms, there should be someone there to support him.

Why is this horrid child with behaviour issues not being monitored? I would be very angry at this.

amelie horrid boy?? Nice. Pretty sure op said the boy has SNs