To expect DH to not need reminding every week of timings

[wintersdawn]

Every Wednesday during term time i go to an evening class. The time of this class never changes and therefore neither does the time that I need to leave for the class.

Yet every week I have to remind him not only that I'm out but what time he needs to be home. AIBU to think he should be able to remember this? Esp given that I have been doing this class for over a year now.

In this day of phones and other devices, there's no excuse for these idiots not remembering.

And it's actually disrespectful to the partners. After all, if these people were this crap in their jobs, they wouldn't be any good. I bet they don't forget meetings, deadlines, etc at work. It's like saying that the domestic stuff is not important enough to remember, so they expect you to do the remembering.

It's part of the wifework crap, and as I tell DP, it's on the calendar. I'm not going to start acting as his memory, he has one already.

I'm so glad I'm not the only one driven mad by this.

And yes to the sulk when you say to them it's the same every week or something similar.

I think I'm going to have to investigate an online diary. Maybe that is the trick

My Dh is a bit like this, used to be worse but i started playing dumb saying I wasn't sure and he should check the diary/letter from the school etc- very liberating to spare some brain space. Also we have a shared google calendar so i put everything I (or kids) am doing there and he sees it in his calendar, which he has to look at regularly through the day for work.

This was annoying me today. Ds1 has to go to a birthday party on the weekend and its ds2 birthday too, has he done anything for either event? Of course not! It's all in my head and then he moans at me for sitting up until 11pm on the computer trying to get stuff done and ordered.😬