This is probably going to make me sound horrible. My dp is obsessed with me (which feels weird in itself) we have been togethr a 12years and have 3 children oldest is from a previous relationship but he treats them all the same as hes been about since she was 2. He came into my life when i was going through a hard time with my ex who was very abusive i had no self esteme and was in a very bad way. Do was friends with a friend of mine and was suddenly there to help and made a fuss of me which i hadnt had anyone do in years. He was very clingy but i just put it down to being his first girlfriend and that he liked me. It was a pretty smothering at times but i just took it thats how things where meant to be. Anyway things moved pretty fast my trust was pretty bad but he made things feel better and within a year had talked me into having a second dc. I know that sounds bad but i just dont really have a maternal drive to have children if that makes sense.
Move forward to now and hes still as clingy as ever i mean he texts all the time and when im busy he gets all hurt about it. I just feel like i cant be me round him im not a cuddly person but he wants to hug all the time and if i look the tinyest bit sad or im just quiet or thinking he takes it that he doesnt make me happy. I try to talk to him and he says he will change which he does for a few days then he will buy me loads of stuff and make me feel bad for saying anything. I dont want to tear our family apart but i just feel so smothered by him i know lots of people would like someone who cared thwt much about them but its driving me nuts. I feel like i cant even go to the loo without fear of upsetting him. Its just stupid isnt it?