Are vegetarians just fussy?

[changemyself]

So, me and DP haven't spoken for three days now. We had an argument which was as a result of him saying I used to be fussy when I was younger. Which I was. I now eat everything, except meat, this is for moral reasons.
He went on to say that being vegetarian is just a faddy, fussy first world idea and said vegans are even worse.
In ten years he has NEVER had any issue with me being vegetarian and doesn't eat much meat himself as I do most of the cooking.
I couldn't believe it and told him it's going to take a bloody long time for me to get over this. AIBU to still be annoyed?

oh dear arethereanyleftatall, I suspect the vegetarians and vegans on this thread are about to eat you alive.... (maybe they're all zombies) You might have picked the wrong thread to share this opinion!

You havent spoken to your DH in 3 days over this and come here for validation? I wont give it.
It sounds like he has tolerated your diet for ten years. Your marriage is in trouble, I think your stance on vegetarianism is the least of your worries.

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vegetarianism_by_country

So, over 360 million people in India have faddy, fussy, first world ideas? Over 50 million in China?

Vegetarianism isn't fussy.

Letting an argument stew on for 3 weeks is fussy. How can you bear it? Aren't you both able to have a conversation about this?

Oh god I read days as weeks.

Well yes in a first world country it is a choice to be vegetarian. I have the luxury to choose not to eat meat. So you could say it's fussy.
As is using toilet paper, sanitary protection, buying food you like, having Sky telly and not wearing fur. We're all fussy. It just takes different forms.

I was raised by a strict vegetarian mother and have never tried meat. This many years later I'm not sure my body could even digest meat properly and my DP can be really cruel about it. He will make me a bacon sandwich and call me ungrateful when I don't eat it

Wind, what's the point of him?!

YANBU. Carnivores who moan on about veggies are so boring.

The fussiest eaters I've ever met have been meat eaters. They're awful to travel with, too. They always get sick, then I have to rush around looking for an English-speaking doctor and/or cleaning up their diarrhoea and vomit.

I am vegetarian and one of the least fussy eaters I know. I certainly have my preferences, and love good food, but I will pretty much eat anything vegetarian put in front of me.

except blue cheese.

I'm veggie and was a fussy eater until I met DH. DH is also veggie and eats absolutely anything except for meat, things like gelatine and rennet, and oddly Jaffa cakes.

So it's ok for vegetarians and vegans to criticise meat eaters, but when it goes the other way, they get the sulks.

I'm vegan, the rest of the house are vegetarian (but we have our own pet hens). I went vegetarian as a young child because it made me feel sick to think of eating the flesh of an animal. Have definitely been called fussy over the years.

Reference Forks Over Knives, The China Study, How Not To Die by Dr Michael Greger. Take a look at www.nutritionfacts.com - all strong well respected and independent (i.e. Not sponsored by the meat/food industry) sources that explain why meat causes the key illnesses and why a plant based diet is the healthiest option.

Vegetarians are in no way fussy! It's a life choice, not which colour shoes you're going to bloody wear! After 10 years OP I'd be shocked too. I'd be mortified if DP said that to me!

I think it is a form of fussiness.

I just don't think there is anything wrong with being fussy about what you put in your body.

Doesn't matter why you don't want to eat something. Religion, ethics, health.

Don't care. If you don't want it don't eat it, not my business/problem.

I presume that the veggies that are that way only have high welfare milk, eggs cheese etc?

I eat meat. As I believe we should eat meat. But only small and only high welfare. This means I only eat meat and dairy at home, as I know what im eating. There are a few places out that do high welfare meals, bit they're quite rare.

I can see his point.

I lived in a third world country for a while. Many people there were grateful for any food meat, vegetables.
Choosing to be vegetarian is a position of luxury and a bit of a first world problem. Not everyone is so lucky.
Many people eat vegetarian food in the world through economic necessity rather than choice.

I don't understand his reasoning for the fussiness. What context is this in? It makes no sense.

I'm a meat eater with veggie friends. I don't see them as fussy. Everyone has likes and dislikes of certain foods, whatever the reasoning behind it. My friend who will never try anything that she considers different (including pasta) and tries to insist we always go to the same bland pub- she's fussy and annoying with the insisting.

Reading the two posts above mine, I see where his argument may lie. I suppose everyone is fussy then with likes and dislikes regardless of reasons because we have the luxury.

I suppose if I was in for example the walking dead world, I'd have no choice but to eat anything I could (hopefully drawing a line at people).

I'm an ex veggie, I started eating meat again when I was pregnant with DS1, as I couldn't be arsed with making sure I was getting enough protein and iron. I'm not fussy, I really can't drink tea or eat maize, they make me heave, but I'll eat absolutely anything else.

Your DH is being an arse.

Unfortunately there are some idiots who give genuine vegetarians and vegans a bad name. Like a relative of mine who is constantly telling everyone he is vegan and is always proudly stating his vegan ethical stance on social media but then comes to my house and joins everyone in eating the cake which I make with eggs and butter and orders pizza made with cheese. His excuse is that cake is cake and pizza is too good to give up. I respect genuine vegans and vegetarians and will go out of my way to cater for them when they visit me but that particular relative does vegans no favours.