AIBU to expect a warm meal

[danceswith]

I cook 6 days out of 7 and cater for various dietary requirements, sometimes 4 different meals. Aibu on the odd day that someone else cooks to be grateful for food served at varying degrees of temperature , from cool to icy. Even when I've helped with prep and cooking. Is it really too much to ask to have warm food on warm plates.

I doubt very much your food goes stone cold from being plated up to the table.
If it's an issue then warm your own plate maybe

DH sounds like a crap cook, but your easiest solution is probably to get a microwave if you've not already. Might make it easier for you during the week too.

I would say ' how lovely dh I'll just pop it in the oven for 10 minutes to warm up, would you like a glass of wine ' each time until he gets the hint

Apparently yes it is and that is an answer to your question.

My DH cooks the roast dinner every Sunday and I carve the meat and help him to dish it up.

Neither of us warm the plates, yet the dinner is still piping hot.

Can you not help him with the dishing up bit?

My Mum's another one who always warms her pates and DH has burned his fingers on several occasions because it was unheard of in his home when he was a child. In fact he often complains that the food I serve him is too hot - and I don't usually warm my plates.... unless it's a big dinner at the dining table and people are helping themselves from serving dishes, in which case the dishes are warmed before the food goes into them......
I don't hesitate to use the microwave on the rare occasions DH serves me a meal and it's not warm enough for me.

'Wish I could cook less but OH works long hours, so it's only fair that he has a hot meal on table when he gets home.'

Never understood why someone has to have a 'hot meal on the table' just because they work. What did they do before their Edwardian Maid of All Work turned up to cater to them? How old are you kids? Time to start involving them in prep and clean up and then maybe warm plates won't be such an issue.

I cooked food for my 19 month old the other day it was pasta mixed with left over chicken and veg. My cunt of a partner put it to his mouth and he had food hanging out of it. I ain't feeding his fat arse I am feeding my fucking toddler. I have had enough of men taking women for granted.

expact its when they tell you its substandard and to not put that in front of me. I am sure your dh appreciates you but unfortunately that doesn't happen for most.

I certainty don't sit ther waiting for my meal to be served. His timing is just awful even when I'm helping him.and no its not a meal at the inlaws alice . Just a normal weekend at home with 4 kids and various other visitors, kids mates and partners. Sat and sunday only time we have time to relax over a meal, so if food plates etc warm at least when we first sit down it makes for a nicer meal time

'expact its when they tell you its substandard and to not put that in front of me. '

Um, I would have immediately ditched someone like in the dating stage. And if they did it once we had a kid it would be the last meal I ever cooked for them.

My DH was a SAHD for years. I still didn't think my 'going out to work' meant he was a Maid of All Work and needed to have a 'hot meal on the table' when I walked in. We worked on meal planning, shopping and prep together. Work doesn't excuse a person from lifework and parenting.

I'm admittedly obsessed with hot food. Can't bear food served lukewarm. But would just pop my plate in to warm and use microwave if necessary.

Kids range from 20s to 9. He doesn't expect a meal waiting for him but does make it easier all round. He's up at 5 and not home till 6 earliest. I'm a spoilt brat he does the kids bedtimes ( those young enough to need it obviously) the dogs the ponies even the cleaning washing (due to my health issues) he likes to to cook so he chooses to do so. But if he insists on cooking I would just like warm food on a warm plate, it's not that hard. He has a restricted diet and we have a vegan and a picky eater and I manage a warm meal for all. I do have a microwave but because of issues stated I cook from scratch, and microwave food is stuff I've made and frozen. Kids that are at home work so can't get them to do much on a work night. 9 year old sets table and helps out when appropriate

I didn't mean microwave meals OP. I meant warming up something one of you has cooked in the microwave. Surely makes more sense than sitting eating it cold?

I am sure your dh appreciates you but unfortunately that doesn't happen for most.

Not to make this thread all about you, Sunshine, but it is you who choosing that treatment, and it is not unusual to be appreciated by your partner.

Well thanks for telling me the obvious. I will walk away quietly now I am doing it to myself. I made my bed so I deserve it thank you that is what I wanted to hear.

Sunshine

It's not a case of having made your bed and deserving this treatment - it is in your power to change the way your relationship works. You deserve better than someone talking to you that way - do you have someone who can help you? Do you think your relationship can be fixed?

It's not a case of having made your bed and deserving this treatment Absolutely.

But it is in your power to walk away and not put up with anyone again who doesn't show basic decency to their partner.

Most of us have dated men who turned out to be controlling or rude or knobbish. But you deserve better so demand better.

Pop the empty plate in the microwave to warm it. Job done.

I also suggested heating up the meal in the microwave. OP, why don't you do that?

I've never warmed a plate in my life, new cooker has a bit on it for warming plates, never used it don't even know how.

The foods hot whenits served, it takes quite a while for food to go stone cold, so not sure how he's managing that, but maybe instead of kicking off, uou could go in close to serving time and just warm the plates or something. Save an argument?

My hubby seldom cooks, when he does it's fairly shite, but I try to be encouraging. Groan. If I don't cook, we don't have dinner, it's that simple.