To call social services her

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Since she had a baby 8 months ago it screams lots even a few times at night. I am sick of it surely she must be just letting the baby scream. She went door to door to say how sorry she is and he's got heath problems. Would you call them?

Please don't worry about SS, if they were called they would only want to make sure you had all the support you could access. They might talk to you and your health visitor but speaking as a social worker we do know that all babies cry, some more than others.

Don't worry about your neighbours OP. You have explained the situation and they don't give a shit. Let them call social services. If they come (that's not a guarantee they may ring) you can explain you have a diagnosis but you've been told only time will make it better.
I sympathise my DD had silent reflux and screamed for 6 months solid. She only slept for 20 minutes at a time and I swear my ears constantly rang but it did gradually get better.

Poor you. Do you have enough support? Dealing with an unsettled, poorly baby is hard enough without grumpy neighbours. I've been the neighbour and it sucks but it's what happens when you live near other human beings. I've also been the parent of a screaming, distressed baby. I do think it's worse when you're the parent because you feel guilty and you have the noise.

My first baby screamed almost constantly due to the horror that is baby colic. It was a nightmare, poor little sossidge.

Don't worry, my DD had horrific colic and all evening/night sounded like several babies and a few cats all being murdered simultaneously.

There wasn't much sound proofing between us and next door - I hear them doing normal non-loud things.

I bumped into neighbour and began to aplogise perfusely, he was a stuffy old batchelor and I thought he was going to complain. He swore blind he never ever heard the baby - bless him we both knew it was a total lie! But I loved him a little bit for pretending he never heard her.

Only a massive asshole would report you xx

No I wouldn't call them. Instead I would offer my babysitting services for a couple of hours to give you a break. X

"If your neighbours were shouting so loud that you heard them through your walls, it was directed at you. I'm thinking this isn't the first time they've been agressive? If they continually shout threatening things at you, then I would think about ringing police on non emergency number and reporting them for verbal assault / harassment."

I think you're jumping the gun a bit there - surely it's more likely someone shouted "stop fucking crying" out of frustration, rather than as an actual command? I've definitely exclaimed similar when it's been 3am (or whatever) and I've been unable to sleep because of noise from another flat - it doesn't mean I'd actually be aggressive to anyone, just that I'm frustrated with the noise at that moment in time.

Cats, my three have all had issues - Asthma, severe Eczema and allergies among other things. Some people have no idea how something as supposedly trivial as eczema could make my baby cry ll night. (his was severe and we'd have blood everywhere from scratching, cuts and it was just awful. I stayed awake many nights all night with him.
Take it easy, you are covered by the hospital records ect. It must be draining for you too. Don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it.

Those other people can get earplugs. I have dogs barking all night and I don't complain :)

Don't be so bloody ridiculous

Unless there are other REAL concerns, then you are nuts. Babies cry, sometimes lots, for all sorts of perfectly normal reasons

All babies cry. Some cry a lot. I wouldn't call ss about a baby or child crying unless I had other reasons to think there was neglect or abuse.

If ss were going to pounce on parents of crying babies. They'd be doing nothing else. All babies cry, op. Regardless of what the 'My baby never cries brigade say.
. Its the only way they can communicate.
Please relax. No one is going to call ss over a crying baby, unless its a stressful fearful cry and we all know the difference.
Relax. I take it this is your first.

All babies cry and you have no worries about SS.

However have you tried to minimise the noise for your neighbors, like going downstairs or going into a different room. If you are sleep deprived due to your baby crying and the neighbors can hear it every night then they are also sleep deprived.

I'm a childless 20 something who has lived in poorly sound insulated flats for years. Crying babies are something we've dealt with in the past. I would never call social services for someone whose baby cries a lot.

If someone knocked on my door to explain their child had health problems, I'd want to show support. In fact, if you did that I'd probably pop by with a bottle of wine or some treats to give to you and see if I could offer any support e.g. making you some meals for the freezer, picking up your shopping, babysitting, or helping with the house work for a few hours.

If got a dd4 who was an easy baby to say the very least. The thing is no matter where me or dh go with him he will be herad we end up co sleeping alot with him so he'd stop crying. My Dh toke ds and dd to the park today a while later I heard him cry i couldn't see him I til a bit later. He truly has quite a cry my eyes ring after for a while!

Are you unhinged?
God save us from people like you. Hopefully SS will ignore your vindictive malicious referral.

I think you need to RTT, oblo.
Op is the one with the crying baby and she's worried that her neighbours will inform ss.

Well there is nothing else you can do.

Are you coping well, 8 months of this is sure to wear anyone down.

Hope you are getting enough support in RL.

Oblomov, if you have to give someone a pasting, you might want to check your understanding of the situation first.

I'd say you owe the OP an apology.

I had social services called for that exact reason. We were having huge problems with those neighbours anyway tbh.

A lovely lady from social services phoned me, saying she had some "information for me." Conversation went like this.

Her: We've had an anonymous phone call stating that your children are loud and screaming at all times day and night.

Me: Right, well I can tell you exactly who called you...

Her: (interrupting) I'm sure you can, to be honest.

Me: Yes we've had a lot of problems with them. My youngest does wake in the night, though not every night and we do our best to settle him quickly, especially as he shares a room with his sibling. And no, they don't certainly don't scream all day and night.

Her: I'm sure they don't.

There was a little after that but it's a bit personal but basically she was in no way concerned, had never been, had followed a couple of procedures and was just ringing me to let me know of the complaint, asked me for the phone number of my DD's preschool just to again confirm, and let me know there was absolutely no case.

Our neighbours would have been better off going to environmental health (not that it would have done much good considering our son wasn't waking nearly as often as they made out and we were dealing with it as effectively as we could).

So you don't have anything to worry about. Honestly. If someone was petty enough to call social services they would very quickly be able to identify you as not a risk.

To be fair, posts telling OP that she is crazy to call social services is probably exactly what OP hoped to hear!

Oh ok sorry op. I read every post you wrote, but you write in a very unusual style and it wasn't clear that you are the actual lady with the screaming baby.

Ds2 screamed and screamed literally all night. And I had SS threatened to me. So people threatening such nonsense to others, really gets my goat.

I think the OPs typos are due to complete exhaustion and upset tbh?

OP, do not worry about SS. And do your best to take the baby into a good positioned room for your neighbors eg not the room that shares a wall with their bedrooms etc. then just ride it out.

Babies cry, unfortunately they cry a lot at night, and yes, when they're poorly they cry and cry and cry.

You must be knackered. How do you feel? Sleep deprivation can leave mums very vulnerable to pnd. I know DS's silent reflux almost broke me.

It would take me right back to my daughter who screamed for 6 months solid. I would sympathise with the mum and maybe go round to offer help/support/just a listening ear.