They split up 4 years ago. She split up with him. I met him 2 years ago. We moved in together 6 mths ago.
Before we became serious they met up about once a month. She is marrying someone else.
However, She still asks to catch up with him every month or so. I was ambivalent to this initially but then I recently got unreasonably upset about this. I can't see why she's still asking. Every month or so she'll get in touch and because I've got increasingly upset he hasn't now seen her for 4 months (he hasn't). But last week she got in touch and said 'Are you ok? I still care, you know?' I saw this text come in when I was on the phone to his sister. He knows I saw the text. He said it was because he wasn't arranging to meet her any longer.
I get that he's not and she realises that. She's knows he's with someone else now. But I don't get that she thinks it's fine for me that he would still see her? AIBU?
PS I've never met her. Lives in same town but it's never cropped up.