So, friend asked a couple of months back if we (me and my dh with her and her dh) could go away to celebrate my birthday. I agreed as thought this was lovely.
Said friend has mentioned this over the past few months and said she is looking forward to it.
I have a look and can't find much accommodation for the place we were planning to visit so asked what she'd like to do (the accommodation was very expensive), friend said she had looked and found the same issue and offered to keep looking or just meet up locally, whatever suited.
Anyway, in the meantime my dh found a lovely cottage a couple of miles out that was reasonable so booked it.
At this point, informed my friend and let her know we had found somewhere and dh had said not to worry about the money as the cottage would've just been the same price if it was just the two of us and it was after all for my birthday so not an issue. At this point my friend starts saying she's almost 100% sure she can come and she would let me know (odd as she was the one who suggested we went away and on that weekend)
I heard nothing after a week so asked again, to be told she would have an answer the next day, I hear nothing.
Fast forward 2 weeks before my birthday and I had heard nothing to sent a msg to my friend just asking if they knew if they could come as if not we would need to know to make other plans and get our money back on the accommodation- friend comes online, repeatedly for the past 24 hours but doesn't read my message.
She doesn't want to come does she?
How do I say "hi; decided to cancel nice idea but obviously a bit inconvenient so catch up another time!" With our sounding like I'm throwing a hissy fit.
Or am I just being over the top ?
Need to make a decision soon or else we won't be able to find anywhere else or get our money back (we booked a cottage where friend suggested but would go somewhere else if we go alone).