...to stay in a hotel 3.5 miles from 'home'?

[PandoraMole]

'Home' currently being my parents house.

DD and I have been here for a few months already and will probably be 4-6 months before we can move out.

My Dad is a sweetheart, but my Mum aka the lovechild of Hyacinth Bucket & Victor Meldrew and I are very different characters and although we love each other, we are driving each other up the wall. Throw a hormonal 12yo into the mix and, well, you can imagine .

DD and I have a Monday inset day coming up which means we could do a Sunday night at our local Premier Inn with breakfast for under £40. I have Clubcard vouchers for a meal out the night before and we could have a lovely bath each without getting moaned at about the cost of the hot water!

Have looked at PI in neighbouring city to make it more of a break but seems a bit grotty whereas local one has only been open a year or so.

Well deserved treat or ridiculously indulgent?

Please try and find the same/ similar deal in a place a little further away. Then it will be easier to run past the Matriarch. Have a good time anyway. You need a break.

Definitely do it! A bit of a break will do you both the world of good!

Sounds great! Have you considered make it a short trip holiday too and visiting another city and staying in a hotel? Might be a nice holiday break too?

Do it! Mini break all round.

My DC (5 and 8) want a night in a PI for Christmas!

Do it! I did this last year on my own. I just needed a child free break and no sitters. It was great.

I think I'm going to do it.

Will be booking a family room and will def check re bath.

Will have a look at a few more location options, but was thinking we could spend the day Christmas shopping/ice skating or seeing a film in nearby city, then come back to the lovely new PI in our home town.

I love the idea of getting a friend to give me it as a present that's just the sort of devious tactic I often have to employ with mum, and exH ironically

Getting the temptation to sneak off on my own is huge (DD won't do overnights with ex atm) but she needs the break as much as I do and we get on really well so should be fun.

Do it OP it will be a great and relaxing break for both you and DD screw what you mum thinks it's not up to her what you do with your money.

Absolutely go for it

My brother once booked a holiday so close to home, he could put his daughter into nursery every day!

Well spent 40 pounds I say . Have a lovely time .

Booked it...after a hellish weekend full of rows and aggro.

We're going to the nearby city one rather than staying in home town, so we can shop, eat and crash out without having to go anywhere, or maybe do cinema, food and hotel and shop on day 2.

Really can't wait , although when I told DD I'd organised a surprise she was hoping it was moving into a place of our own by Christmas . Will just have to keep looking forward to next year.

We used to book a hotel in the same city we live in, just for a night out the house, and we lived on our own, and dc wasn't here yet. It was nice to have a break.
Go and relax and enjoy yourselves

I recently spent the night at my local pi. It's less than 2 miles from my house.
I just hate my house so much and just had a really bad day where everyone was annoying me and I just could not bare to go back to my horrid house.
It was bliss. IT'S by the cinema and Harvester. I watched a film. Ate. Soaked in the bath and vegged in bed for 14 hours. I was sad to leave.
Go for it and enjoy I would say .

Good for you and if your mum has an issue not that she should tell her you won it in a competition and enjoy

i'm in a similar situation to you but due to ill health

me and my dc do mini breaks as much as we can - its great :)

enjoy yourselves

Of course do it. It's your money.

But can I ask if you are back at your parents for six months at your convenience, or for your benefit? If you are staying rent free or not paying much etc and living with the parents? If so, be nice to them too because maybe they are looking after you and they may welcome a break from you!

I lived at my parents house in my thirties and they did so much for me! I married later in life and now run my self ragged for two ungrateful kids (my kids) and did not realize how nice and easy I had it ma and pas! (but that may be not be your experience!)

Italian obviously we do have it cheaper and easier from a practical pov but we're not living rent free!

We halved their outgoings to get a per person cost per month and I pay 1.5x that for DD and I (parents are retired, we are out 45 hours a week at work/school and at least half of the weekend). I also contribute to joint household sundries such as washing powder, milk, loo rolls.

Mum does our washing but I iron anything of ours that needs it. I buy, prepare and cook mine and DD's meals and mostly clear up afterwards (washing up is dad's job so if we're out there at the same time and we've only got a few items he'll do it with theirs). I buy and cook a proper roast for us all every other weekend and would happily cook for us all more often but mum actually prefers ready meals to 'proper' food a lot of the time so that didn't really get off the ground.

Obviously mum does the housework - she's there all day and I'm not, but I have offered help if she asks. Unfortunately she wants the house to look like a show home at all times and would rather make a martyr of herself than wait for me to get in and run the hoover over!

But you're now paying 75% of the costs for you and one child whilst they are paying 25% for two adults! If you want to go down that route shouldn't you have divided the total costs proportionately so you the three adults pay the same and a half of that for the child?

For example if total monthly costs are £280, you are currently paying £210 and they £70. What would be fair is you pay £120 and they pay £160.

If the argument is that bills would go up from the original costs for two now that there are 1.5 extra people in the house then tot up what the monthly bills are now and divvy that up fairly. I think you are overpaying on the bills. Paying less will benefit you all my letting you save more and get your own place sooner.

Enjoy it. You can always tell your mum you are doing it so that she can have some time to herself as a thank you for letting you stay.

Do it. I've done similar with my dd and it was fun.

Enjoy every minute of your little break.

Well, I've booked it, broken the news to mum and all is well.

Can't wait !

I've done this before stayed in PI 10 min walk from my house to get good nights sleep (DS was an awful sleeper when he was little and DH works away a lot) dh paid for the break and did the nightly waking a few times. Go for it (ring them and make sure you get a bath)

Already checked before I booked