Aggression from DD's school friend

[SilverBirch20]

My 14 year old DD was at a friend's house at a sleepover last weekend. There were three girls there, the host, my DD and DD's "Best friend". There was a dispute and the best friend slapped DD on her back and head. DD rang me at 11.30pm to ask me to bring her home from the sleepover.

Only two days later the best friend turned up at our house as if nothing had happened. It was on the tip of my tongue to confront her about her behaviour, but I held back as I wondered it this would be inappropriate. As a parent, do you have a right to tackle bad behaviour directly with other people's teens or is this totally unacceptable?

Thanks for any advice.

Hell yea, I'd have tackled her and I'd have phoned her Mother/Father too and spoken to them.

That's a tough one isn't it? I remember those vicious teenage days but I have no clue how to handle it. I think the received wisdom is 'stay out of it' but I'm not really sure I could have stopped myself from saying something.

You'd be in your rights to say you are uncomfortable having the friend in your house after her behaviour but the problem with that is they might just meet other places you can't supervise so I'd encourage your DD to cool the friendship. 14 is old enough to know that violence is unacceptable.