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For being thoroughly p'd off by The Ritz Hotel - long rant sorry

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Pennies · 11/02/2007 19:51

This weekend it was my mother's 70th birthday and she decided that she wanted to celebrate it by staying at The Ritz Hotel in Picadilly. She booked rooms for herself, her cousin , my bro and SIL, me, DH and our DD's (13months and 2yrs) for last night.

It was DH's birthday last week and we decided that we (us to and our DD's) would add an extra night onto our stay tonight and treat ourselves to a bit of luxury.

In the week running up to this weekend's planned extravagnza I called the hotel twice to check on arrangements for baby sitters, baby paraphanalia and other bits and bobs. My DH also popped in there in person to suss a few things out as well. When he visited the hotel on this recce he was wearing jeans - this was not remarked upon by the staff there.

Anyway... yesterday we arrived and rather chaotically checked in with the DD's being a bit bemused, loads of clobber and general disorganisation. DH and I were both wearing jeans. No comment was made on our dress.

Yesterday afternoon, after checking in we decided to get some tea. When we went downstairs we were informed that we were not allowed in the dining room as we had jeans on. I accepted this although it meant I could not feed the DD's downstairs at the table and had to cobble something together in our room with them sitting on my knee.

Last night we get all glammed up and we had a lovely meal.

This morning as we were getting dressed I checked the guest information book regarding dress code and it said the following. " Gentlemen are expected to wear a jacket and tie in the Palm Court and Restaurant after 11am". As it was 8.30am and Sunday morning we got dressed in jeans (smart ones, no rips, nice boots, did my hair and make-up, DH was wearing a shirt etc etc) and headed on downstairs. On arrival at the breakfast room we were refused entry because of our dress.

After much debate with the staff and two duty managers we were given the following options:

  1. Have breakfast in our room (not much space & no table)

  2. Have it in another dining room on our own and to only be able to have a continental breakfast (didn't want to eat alone and we wanted the full English)

  3. Go elsewhere.

This meant that the whole party (i.e. us and my mum, bro, SIL, cousin etc) could not have breakfast together as my mum - who was paying for the whole thing wanted her breakfast there, which was fair enough.

We opted for number 3. This meant taking the DD's upstairs, getting them all in their coats, getting the pushchair out, and finding somewhere else to go. Totally bloody inconvenient, and they were both starving and beginning to create by then.

The upshot was that DH and I were so pissed off with being treated like sartorial lepers that after breakfast (at the very accomodating and understanding Wolsey) we went back to the Ritz and cancelled tonight's booking because we felt so unwelcome and patronised.

So, AIBU in expecting the hotel to have made it VERY clear that there was an absolute no jeans policy on the 3 opportunities they had prior to our arrival when we contacted them to discuss our stay? Is this something everyone in the whole world just knows (except us obviosuly)?

OP posts:
Sisisimone · 01/05/2022 11:20

theslownorris · 12/02/2007 15:36

I'm going to be very brave and say I find it hard to believe that you only packed jeans and evening wear. I think if I was going somewhere like that (yeah right) I'd have taken my entire wardrobe

Me too. Maybe not my entire wardrobe but I'd definitely have something nice to wear for a weekend away at a 5 star hotel. It's a bit odd to only have a pair of jeans and an evening dress with you for a 2 night stay, especially when you're going out for lunch etc

user8765 · 01/05/2022 11:24

@Sisisimone this thread is from 2007 I'm sure the OP is over it by now Grin

Blaze1886 · 01/05/2022 11:24

Zombie!

GeorgesMarvelousCalpol · 01/05/2022 11:32

Zombie 🧟‍♂️ 🧟‍♀️

OfstedOffred · 01/05/2022 11:36

Sorry but I would have thought this was standard. Hotels like the Ritz always have a smart dress code in dining rooms.

Kat1953 · 01/05/2022 11:38

Coolmama · 11/02/2007 19:55

I can understand how frustrating that is, but most luxury hotels have some sort of dress code etc and jeans have never been acceptable (no matter how smart) - sorry!

Agreed. I'm sorry op, I think its expected that their clientele knows not to wear jeans. Not doing so is normal in most high end establishments.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 01/05/2022 11:44

Carmenere · 11/02/2007 20:06

It is crap and shoddy of them not to make you feel comfortable BUT I think most people know that jeans are a no no in 5 star hotels but enforcing it at breakfast is a bit anal. Write and complain. It is too expensive to be made to feel unwelcome, no matter what the rules are.

I think the no jeans is an English thing. I've stayed in lots of 5 star hotels and while there might be a dress code for dinner, jeans have been perfectly acceptable for breakfast, lunch and tea in the afternoon.

Justkeeppedaling · 01/05/2022 11:48

DizzyBint · 11/02/2007 20:03

if i were staying at the ritz i would go expecting not to wear jeans. the whole idea of the place is that it's very smart, so no jeans, however smart the jeans happen to be. same goes for most 5star places i've been to.

This.

The whole point of the Ritz is that it's smart and snobby. It's what people pay £££ for.
It would never have crossed my mind to wear jeans, with or without holes.

Crocky · 01/05/2022 11:49

Zombie.

SunshinePie · 01/05/2022 11:51

Jeans?? Are you kidding?? Of course you got asked to leave, it’s not the Holiday Inn.

Geezabreak82 · 01/05/2022 11:55

I wonder if there's a difference in dress between 5 star hotels in the city and the countryside in the UK? I've visited Gleneagles and stayed in the Old Course and Mar Hall and I'm sure jeans would have been fine for breakfast there. I'm not so sure about the Balmoral or the Waldorf Astoria in Edinburgh though. Sucks that they didn't tell you though. When your OH popped in wearing jeans beforehand it would have been the perfect opportunity to raise it...

BIWI · 01/05/2022 11:55

What on earth made you resurrect this thread @Sisisimone?! It's from 2007!

WHICH MAKES IT A ZOMBIE THREAD!!!

BungleandGeorge · 01/05/2022 11:57

I disagree that this is a normal dress code for 5 star. Usually breakfast has very few restrictions and smart jeans are usually fine all day. Dress code is usually no trainers/ sandals/shorts/ ripped items/ needing shirt, tie, jacket

and the whole point of a 5 star is that they put guests first and pride themselves on customer service so I’d expect them to accommodate you and find a way to provide a cooked breakfast

FlibbertyGiblets · 01/05/2022 11:57

OMG this thread is 15 years old. Why would anyone want to reanimate it?

Who else is going to point and laugh at the non-whole thread-readers posting today?

FlibbertyGiblets · 01/05/2022 11:58

BungleandGeorge · 01/05/2022 11:57

I disagree that this is a normal dress code for 5 star. Usually breakfast has very few restrictions and smart jeans are usually fine all day. Dress code is usually no trainers/ sandals/shorts/ ripped items/ needing shirt, tie, jacket

and the whole point of a 5 star is that they put guests first and pride themselves on customer service so I’d expect them to accommodate you and find a way to provide a cooked breakfast

No 1!

TheLittleCabbages · 01/05/2022 11:58

ZOMBIE THREAD! Who knows what their dress code is now as this was 15 years ago!!!!!!!!!!!
ZOMBIE

LindaEllen · 01/05/2022 12:00

Sorry, but it's The Ritz hotel. You can't have expected to eat casually in jeans, surely? They have the image they have for a reason, and that's because they demand a high standard from their guests, just as their guests demand a high standard from them.

If it's not you, just book somewhere more casual next time - there are lots of lovely hotels that aren't in that league!

Fishwishy · 01/05/2022 12:00

I amazed about this being a problem. Jeans aren't acceptable wear to places like that I wouldn't even have attempted it. It's why people book places like this because they want the full posh hotel experience. I ever in officers messes (when I was in the RAF) there were many times you weren't allowed to wear jeans in the public rooms and that is effectively the officers homes.

I think it's best you don't stay on those hotels op, it's a different culture you are alien to and not fair on the staff having to enforce it too.

Sisisimone · 01/05/2022 12:00

user8765 · 01/05/2022 11:24

@Sisisimone this thread is from 2007 I'm sure the OP is over it by now Grin

😂really strange. I clicked in through active threads, so had no idea it was from 2007. Weird.

NeedAHoliday2021 · 01/05/2022 12:00

I’ve never stayed at the ritz but have always known you can’t wear jeans at the ritz. I thought it was pretty well known. In olden times they were seen as workman’s clothing.

Ownedbymycats · 01/05/2022 12:01

It's the Ritz and I wouldn't expect to wear jeans there. Why stress yourselves any more over it, don't let it overshadow a family celebration.

NeedAHoliday2021 · 01/05/2022 12:01

Why can’t zombie threads be in a different colour after 6 months?! @mumsnet

lapasion · 01/05/2022 12:02

That baby will be doing it’s GCSEs soon.

Viviennemary · 01/05/2022 12:03

It does seem a bit over the top to ban jeans at breakfast. Though I don't wear them myself. Plenty of folk do. Just noticed this must be the zombiest of zombie threads. Wonder if their policy has now changed.

MrsLargeEmbodied · 01/05/2022 12:09

ZOMBIE

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