I gave birth to DS2 five weeks ago, DS2 is 3.3 years old.
Both bi, rths and pregnancies went well, with minor complications. DS1 was born unexpectedly at 36+1. He was well initially, but had to be readmitted to hospital at a week old due to jaundice worsening. I have got some questions about his care after birth.
With DS2 I had polyhydraminos. It didn't really cause any problems, but just as with DS1, I had to give birth on the labour ward (was keen to try water birth). I also had a little scare with bleeding at 10 weeks pregnant.
I am actually immensely grateful to conceive easily, to have two easy birth and to healthy children. I am absolutely fine emotionally about how things went in pregnancy and childbirth. I would simply like to ask some questions about why things were handled in a certain way (e.g. both my kids had tongue tie and there was no clear indication as to whether it could be cut on the NHS - it was both times; both times I was offered pain relief very late in labour as my water had gone; why was jaundice not recognised with DS1). I also know that DS2 will be my last, and I think a birth debrief could really help me close the book (and help me realise how grateful I should be!) on pregnancy and birth!
Please do tell me - especially if you work in maternity - if it is being unreasonable to request a birth debrief under these circumstances. If it diverts resources from where there are most needed, I will certainly not do it.