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to tell some-one else child to....

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wotzsaname · 11/02/2007 16:28

behave?

For instance:
how many of us are willing to say to some-one elses child.
"dont do that"
or
"pick that rubbish up you've dropped"

At out primary school there were some school kids (y5s) getting their bikes and knocked over about 3 others (one a lovely new one) and laughed and started to cycle off home, looking around to see if anyone was going to say something.

I was about 1 of 5 parents who saw this and no-one else battered an eyelid.

I said "You lot, go back and pick those bikes up, you wouldnt like it if it was your new bike would you?" My dd didnt like me saying it.

Anyway, they did it, they werent rude and then they went off.

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smeeinit · 11/02/2007 20:20

pmsl @ greensleaves!!!!

i do that too,i know that one day someone is come and knock me out!

smeeinit · 11/02/2007 20:21

will not is

Tirnanog · 11/02/2007 20:22

I guess though that is the reason why we do think twice and are reluctant to tell others off

harpsichordcarrier · 11/02/2007 20:23

oh yeah I do it to adults too
esp dangerous drivers

HeartOnMyGreensleeve · 11/02/2007 20:27

It's getting more common, this "Oh sod the pedestrian crossing, I'm late" syndrome

As far as telling off children who are bullying/abusing property etc, I'd be pretty pissed off with an adult who didn't. It's a social responsibility.

brimfull · 11/02/2007 20:29

I do this sort of thing all the time.

Tirnanog · 11/02/2007 20:35

Of course it is a social responsibility and we should do it,but there is always a risk that we become a target of road rage,vandalism etc

Original poster
wotzsaname · 11/02/2007 20:40

When our parents were kids they'd get a clip around the ear for doing something naughty, now we are intimidated to even say 'please dont do that!'

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Tirnanog · 11/02/2007 20:44

The parents of these children will jump at you rather than correct their child

missymousie · 11/02/2007 21:06

It is such a relief to read this thread. I try to stop myself as my ds(6) has friends whose mothers believe low level misbehaviour is a way of expressing themselves (grr) but I rarely do because I hate the feeling (am teacher) of children becoming out of control.

I've been told though that by stopping children shouting out and play fighting in a cinema that I am repressing their natural urge to be children and on stopping a child rabbit punching another in the head as he lay in a foetal position "why did you do that they were just having fun...."

well one of them was at least.....

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wotzsaname · 11/02/2007 21:14

I am glad to see there are lots of caring adults around.

Just to add: I had my friend and her DH and kids around last weekend. My dd went to bed early as she was tired. The kids had all been whopping it up till this time and now it was late. Her kids kept on making lots of noise, in the end I automatically went 'shus' looked at my friend and said 'sorry is it alright if i shus them?' She said 'Of course, they'll take more notice of you, its your house, shus away!'
I was happy I hadnt upset her.

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TriciaH87 · 07/08/2019 22:42

I work for a supermarket. Last week after going to the gym I was picking up milk and a couple items. Two kids about 12 13 were riding bikes in the store. I told them to get off as you can't ride in store. Couple minutes later I caught one of the little shits doing a wheelie down the booze Isle. Now this is when he hot a proper telling off. I went as far as to ask if he was deaf stupid or both. I also asked if his parents were rich because if he ride into those shelves smashing thousands of pounds worth of spirits were his parents meeting him at the hospital because of his injuries from the smashed glass or coming to pay for the damages. I had already told him I worked in store and said I would have him removed if he didn't push the bloody thing. He complained to an on duty staff member who said well she was correct. He did it again and was then removed. Kids have no respect these days for there own safety let alone for anyone else.

Alb1 · 07/08/2019 22:44

This thread is 12 years old, how did you even find it?

Hate wasting time reading threads only to realise it’s a zombie Envy

RedHatsDoNotSuitMe · 07/08/2019 22:52

@Alb1, did the reference to snowballs in August not give you a small clue it wasn't a recent thread?

Alb1 · 07/08/2019 23:43

Yeah it did... given it’s only a 2 page thread it’s not like I wasted years of my life reading it... not really the point is it? Was more about reviving a pointless zombie thread... obviously

Poolonpaper · 24/01/2022 17:46

YANBU but some parents get very precious about it

ComDummings · 24/01/2022 17:48

This thread is from 2007!

aristotlesdeathray · 24/01/2022 17:50

YANBU at all

2bazookas · 24/01/2022 18:30

Yes I do, and there is no age limit.

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