To think that trick or treaters say "thank you" and move on

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We're on a main thoroughfare so get loads of trick or treaters.
Tonight it feels as though roughly in 1 or 3 of them have said "don't like that" or "can I have something else". I have grumpily refused every time. (It's generally been the 5-9 year olds I'd say - the younger ones just look wide eyed and the older ones just take what they are given!)

AIBU to think that if someone is giving you sweets for nothing your correct response is "thank you".

flupi - new(ish) build estate full of family type homes. DH came home around 7pm and said there were lots of cars parked up too - so think we've had other groups come from a bit further away as well.

Its always busy on Halloween here, but really busy tonight - I can still here some groups out now, though older ones. I guess it is quite mild and dry tonight so good weather for it.

All our TorTers have been wonderfully polite. We've even had one little lad singing "We Wish You a Merry Christmas". Brilliant!

The children all seem really good round here too. They tend to only head to houses where there are pumpkins, signs or decorations, and leave the houses which are dark or show no signs of T&T/Halloween.

Since taking in our pumpkin and signs, and replacing it with the 'no sweets left' sign we've had no more callers.

It's been unusually quiet round here this year and as a result i've ended up scoffing 10 mini packets of haribo and am now feeling rather sick 😷. So now i wish we'd had more visotors!

When i was little my Mum used to help us make peppermint eyeballs for my trick - if you said trick you had to eat one! Dd is only 2 so we went to a few houses of neighbours we know tonight. She was rather perplexed by the whole thing at first but soon cottoned on looking for pumpkins. Never did manage to get her to say trick or treat but she did say thank you once she got her confidence.

She however did not understand why we were then giving away sweets to people coming to our door!

Over 100 t&t here too. I also have had a lot of rude ones tonight which is sad.

Roughly one third tiny kids

One third age 5-9 mostly rude

One third early teens (mix of polite and rude)

Kids were openly saying they didn't like what I had, rummaging for better, no thank yous etc Not very nice.

Puts me off :(

We're onto 88. Top floor flat, no decorations out, only one light on.

For the past few years, we've had no one at all, so I didn't get much in.

when I had to move down South to find socially acceptable begging with menaces was a thing

No begging here. The children knock on doors of decorated (pumpkin, sign or more) only. They say Happy Halloween or TorT. They are given a sweet. They say thank you and goodnight. They leave and move on.

Everyone has been polite.

We only had 2, which was double from last year.
We live up a dark lane, no street lights......it's spooky at the best of times!
They were our neighbours kids. Very cute, told a joke, took one sweetie from the bowl offered and I told them to take some more. They also said thank you and happy Halloween.
Oh wow the dizzying heights of 120 trick or treaters/guisers.
I think I prefer trick or treating to guising. Not being mean but flinging them some sweeties is fun but listening to lots of kids telling jokes etc is just awkward.
I grew up in Scotland and my mum objected to me going guising as she thought it was begging. Back in the 80s it kind of was as no one decorated their house for Halloween. Nowadays is pretty clear who's partaking and who's not. It's fun for the kids.....and fun for the adults too.

We've had about 30 visits this year. It's the first year I've noticed a real lack of manners.

Plenty of grabby hands taking 3 or 4 sweets at a time. A few children turning their nose up at the selection of sweets. And a fair few who haven't said thank you. These are all the age bracket as you say, 5-9 with their parents hovering.
Not feeling inclined to bother next year.

We've had about 50 here, all properly dressed up, all polite and said "thank you".

It's a shame when parents don't teach their children to be polite and that then ruins people's perceptions of kids on Halloween as that's what they remember.
A friend of mine shut up shop at 7.30 when a kid knocked then rang then knocked then rang in some sort of frenzy, then grabbed a hand full of seeets before running off shouting to his adult "Next house"..... zero manners from the child, zero manners from the accompanying adult!

I have to say that I haven't had any experience of rude children in our area. All children said Thank You and just took one sweet, as did DD when we took her out. I'm hoping we continue to have such a lovely experience. No complaints from this house!

We had loads, and ran out of sweets fairly quickly. We even had people do drive by trick or treating this year. Opened the door twice to kids at the door and their parents outside in the car!

I took my two DC out t&t-ing tonight, only calling at houses with pumpkins or other obvious decorations. So many people had gone to a huge effort to decorate their houses and it was lovely to interact with them and the other groups we saw, with the kids comparing costumes and pointing out the houses with pumpkins. Everyone was excited and happy and I didn't see anyone knock at a house without some sort of decoration. I live on a busy through road and it's not often that we have that sense of community.

We also had some visitors ourselves and they were very polite.

Awwww that's a real shame. Our village has been lovely tonight I took 5 kids out, 2 were mine, and was really pleased with their manners (range from 5-12) the kids who came here were all lovely too. It was great 😈👿👹

Never get very many at ours, but never had any rude kids. I always have way more sweets than trick or treaters, but they tentatively take one tiny sweet and need lots of encouragement to take more. I gather they're under strict instructions from parents to only take one. Lovely kids over here!

One girl at our door was calling someone on her phone and just stuck her other hand out without saying anything.

Not feeling well at the moment so decided against partaking this year. Drawn the curtains, turned off all the lights at the front - hasn't stopped 20 or 30 knocks on the door though. Driving me mad it should be so obvious we're not on for it this year - normally quite enjoy it but I've got kids to bed and I'm shivering under the covers myself with a high temperature and ear ache.

That's incredibly rude.

We only had polite visitors. A few simply adorable princesses, vampires, two batmen etc..

However, my mother (my incredibly Barry and quirky mother) simply opens the door and tells the children that the dogs ate all the treats but that the children may have some carrots or onions, if they want. she thinks trick or treating is simply horrible....

*barmy and quirky mother.

My kids sang baa baa black sheep for their trick! [hgrin] they are 2 and 3. Most of the time they managed to say trick or treat, always said thank you

Our first time doing it, it was lovely

We don't do the T&T stuff but DD's carved a pumpkin each and we bought sweets. We only had one knock on the door and about 8 teenage girls said "hello! Trick or treat?!" so politely that we emptied the entire bucket into their hands. There were thank you's galore, so if your girls were the ones in South Wales, knocking on a door with a bath in the drive away don't ask, then they are welcome to call next year!

For the past 13 years I've lived in a city centre where there were pretty much no kids. We'd maybe get one or knocks at most, often none. And when we did, it was often teenagers trying it on, barely dressed up (normal clothes and a cardboard mask from the corner shop). Only once or twice was it little kids.

Three weeks ago we moved to a suburb where there are loads of families and the doorbell hasn't stopped ringing! So far, all but one group have been polite - there was a group of three kids of around 10ish who tried to take double-handfuls of sweets and didn't say thank you. But all the others have been younger ones and very polite (partly, I'm sure, because they had either parents or teenage siblings with them who were reminding them to say thank you).

I'm pretty horrified that kids are complaining about what they're given. Entitled little brats!

We've had a lovely evening - everyone polite and all saying Happy Halloween rather than trick or treat, all making the effort to dress up which is enough for me to give them a sweet.

I took my little ones out earlier, all of the kids are only going to lighted houses. We took our pumpkins in an hour ago and not had any chancers since.

at people getting 100! We had half a dozen groups, and one of those was DS1 and his pals who were being taken round by another mum.

When I was younger we asked for money, not sweets - it was Penny for Halloween, not Trick or Treat.

I don't think I've had a 'kid' shorter than 5'6" knock tonight, I've given them all a bag of Haribo, that promptly got thrown across my front garden, next year I won't bother getting anything