To ask for my own baby things back?

[WinterIsHereJon]

We've been storing quite a few things in MILs loft due to lack of space. This included a Moses basket, crib, pram etc. We are now moving house so DP has been back and forth collecting things. MIL has refused to give back the baby-related items because BIL and partner are having a baby so she wants them in case it stays at her house. DP and I are trying for another baby, although she doesn't know this because she disapproves due to us already having one of each

AIBU to demand our things back?

Agree you should go get them when she's not in.

She paid for the pram so it's hers?

It was a gift to you, not on loan I'm assuming.

She's bonkers.

Hoping SIL breast-feeds too, just to piss her off

Can you have a word with SIL she may be looking at a different pram system. A double pronged attack may work better. But agree with the others she sounds hard work. A gift is a gift.

I'd be loathed to send my kids there, you'll never get them back.

It all sounds extremely toxic and passive aggressive to me.

You can go two ways, either ignore and put up with a lifetime of hell. Or you can go head to head with her and then endure a lifetime of hell as payback.

What did she pay for?

Gosh my almost 2 year old son has never even been to my MILs house, let alone slept over!! She sounds nuts!

Just wait until she is out, and go round and take it. AND your cushions! She is being VVVU.

You need to stop asking her for favours so she has no control. Next time rent a storage locker.

Let your DP handle this, and stand well clear.

If she bought things like the pram, and is now insisting it wasn't a gift, you are probably best leaving those things with her. She can probably produce receipts to say that they are her property, and I'm not sure what the legal position would be given that they are in her her house.

Anything you bought or that was given to you by other people is very definitely yours and you can reclaim. Your DH may find the broken record technique useful - just keep stating that you need them back, and don't be drawn into justifying or providing extra reasons why.

Don't store anything at her house again!

Did she. It the crib?

You might have difficulty getting that back if she's as 'challenging' as you describe though. In her head-she can use it for the baby and you aren't having another baby so why would you need it? You might need to steal it or tell her you're pregnant.

Ridiculous woman (MIL) perhaps you could draw up a deed of ownership for any future gifts detailing if they are indeed a gift, or just an item to be loaned.

I agree with PP's do NOT under any circs store anything at hers again, rent storage / buy a shed / floor board the loft / anything to stop her coming over all self serving 'Robin Hood' and reditributing your property for her own benefit.

...for hells sake don't leave your newborn round there, she may keep it

Go all passive aggressive and announce on FB that you are pg and hope people might loan you stuff as your mil has kept the items! So she sees it. You can always have had a false alarm!

Don't be so wet, OP. Go round there, take your stuff back and your cushions too.

Don't leave the park with her just because she bought it! She's one cheeky cow, tell her to buy her own crib! I'd be storming round there with DP and taking all my belongings back. Am still at the cushions!

*pram not park

Following to see how this ends up