To ask if you are happy with your lot?

[VladmirsPoutine]

Apologies for reposting but didn't get any replies on my other thread.

I just wanted to know if at your age and where you are in life if you're happy with it all?

I recently began a new job and though it's going well I'm not really all that happy about where I am in life. I had many aspirations which went to shit after a bad spell of ptsd.
I'm now getting back on track and hope to become a more active member of my life rather than passive iyswim?

I suppose also as the year draws to an end I'm also taking stock and trying to figure out how I can improve my life. I don't want to be miserable anymore.

Thanks. I suppose it does really start with me and my perception.
For context I was abused for many years. I then developed alcoholism and was then sectioned and medicated.
This change is only recent. Looking back I'm feeling rather sad as I was afforded opportunities and support in life.
Things are largely back to normal now but I can't help but feel bitter and resentful and wish I'd made better choices.

I'm very happy.

My circumstances are very fortunate but I actually think my happiness is down to my natural optimism than my good fortune IYSWIM.

My mum says I was a sunny baby and I think I've continued to feel that way.

But I am not content. I am a striver and very ambitious. I want to achieve things. Lots of things. But it doesn't make me unhappy that I'm not there yet.

Vladimirs - you are dealing with a lot of stuff from your past - and it can't be easy. You have a new job and it is going well. Focus on your new success and don't beat yourself up about past choices. Don't compare yourself to others ( easy to say - some of the posts on this thread make me question my own wee life) . There's lots of good advice in some posts too - about keeping busy, living in the moment but having a plan, helping other people.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years time? With a goal and a purpose, it can help keep a positive momentum. But there are many different pathways to that goal - sometimes it's not straight and direct and sometimes the goal changes - but that's ok! Be gentle with yourself and enjoy the things which are going well for you now, be proud of how you are turning things around for yourself. take care

Definitely. I'm 27, recently married and expecting first baby. We own our home (with mortgage obviously) which is a big positive and contributes a lot to my happiness . As a child living in poverty I used to obsess over the ikea catalogue and dream of having a small, safe & warm place to call home. I honestly can't believe how lucky I am to be where I am, with who I'm with. Count my lucky stars every day and that's regardless of ongoing health problems, crap family & my life going in a different direction to that I had planned. To be safe, secure and loved is all I ever dreamed of and I'm so lucky. Everything else is just extra.

I think I'm happy but then I'm not overly ambitious. I tend to be mediocre in everything I do but I don't think that's a bad thing necessarily. I do feel like I'm waiting for something to happen though. So maybe I'm just bored & lacking enthusiasm. My goal is to do something when my youngest child starts school but that won't be for a while.

Yes. I'm a happy person. If I want something I work to get it. The only things which are negatives in my life are things over which I cannot have any control or influence, so they are left to be.

I'm happy with my lot. I'm nearly 30 - second marriage because first wasn't right so I left. Paid off all my debt and own a small flat which is perfect for our family. Work is going well. DD is disabled but has a good support network and is thriving.

If you asked me 5 years ago if I was happy with my lot in life I would have broke down and cried. Things are so much better now.

Not really. Lone parent (early 40's) and kids who are, at best, a handful. It's affected my health, I can only tread water at work and I had to drop out of studying. No control over anything any more tbh.

I know the next ten years are going to get even harder and I'm really scared.

Although in the grand scale I count myself lucky I'm born in a safe country and have a decent roof over my head.