How late I spent too late for trick and treating?

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DH has decided that he doesn't want to go trick and treating with DD1. I have to be out the house between 5.40 and 7.30. Is 5pm too early or 7,30 too late. We'd just have to do a few of the surrounding streets.

Can you prearrange with a couple of neighbours that you'll be there at 7.30? We only go to houses where we've arranged it in advance. Think we're doing 5 this year, all with children a similar age to ours.

7:30-8 is fine, but some houses will have run out!

Depends on your area, I guess, but a lot of people won't be in at 5pm.

7.30 is getting a bit late - I would imagine particularly with it being a school night the festivities might end earlier.

Does she have any friends or family whose parents would be happy to take her around with their DC?

Why not ask the neighbours in advance?

Your DH is being a proper dick about this. Poor DD.

at "pesk time"

I don't know what's up with him. He usually decorates the house and is the one who really gets into Halloween. I know his back is aching. But now he's got pissed off that I'm taking the kids to the supermarket to grab some stuff for a Halloween party.

I think we'll go out about 5.15. I can get away with not leaving until 5.55. 40 minutes should be enough to get around a couple of streets. The rule around here is that if there are decorations out, you're OK to call.

Your DH is a knob.

But either 5pm or 7.30pm is acceptable, around here it starts as soon as it gets dark and finishes about 8.30pm.

As a many year veteran of having the hoards round at halloween. At 5 o'clock I'd be eating dinner and trying to get my own kids ready so I wouldn't answer the door. 7.30 is fine but I draw the line past 8.30. I blow out the lantern, switch of the lights and that's that.

Last year and this year, since mine are now teenagers, we go out for dinner/cinema to avoid it all. Can't be bothered with it anymore....before anyone moans about being mean, we've done halloween for what seems like the entire estate for about 14 years, we literally get well over a hundred kids round. We've done our bit I think.

Why is pissed off that you are going to get Halloween stuff?

If it's a week day 7pm is late enough. On a weekend possibly 8.30-9pm.

He doesn't want me to spend the money and doesn't see the point of a Halloween tea. We were going to my sisters today and have a Halloween party with their cousins, but I wasn't well enough to drive all the way and back today (approx 150 miles in a day).

I'll answer up until about 7.30 although it's so busy round our area most people have run out of sweets long before then. Most people just put a sign on the door saying "out of sweets" and then no one bothers to knock

Either time is fine. If they are younger, go at 5pm, if older 7.30pm. I'd expect teens up to 9pm.

I would be surprised to have a knock before 5.30 and probably wouldn't answer because we would be having tea, or would have to scrabble about for sweets as I wouldn't have them ready. Having said that though we, like everyone else round here, put a lighted pumpkin out when ready for knocks and the kids are very good about only knocking where there is a lighted pumpkin. I bring in the pumpkin at about 8, no more knocks.

Either time would be fine although 5 pm is a bit of a nightmare for us because we'll be getting our DC ready to go out but I'd still answer the door hand out sweets and treats and make a fuss of any of the children that knock our door.

I'd rather no one knocked after 9pm to be honest(because it's a school day the next day so we have an early start)but I'd still answer the door up untill 9.30.

With your DH if this is out of sorts for I'd be worried about what was going on for him.

Depends on your area, we go around 6.30/7.30, plenty of kids around at that time. If there are friends or neighbours who can take your DD around I'd go with that. If not, I think I'd wait until 7.30 so as not to be rushing round then you can relax with your DD and she can eat her treats-your grumpy DH might not let her, by the sound of him

The point is to brung his children joy. Idiot.

I've just come back with the kids to find DH has put up all the decorations. Massive spider hanging from the porch, with legs that drape over the front door. Halloween lights hung up and a big warning sign over the front door. He's with the DD's putting all the other decorations up. I haven't broached taking DD1 out, but maybe he was just having a bit of a grumpy day. He's usually like a bit of a kid when it comes to decorating the house so it wasn't like him to basically cancel Halloween.

awww good old DH I'm glad he's got himself back in the mood for your DC's sakes.

You mentioned about your DH's back it reminded me when I was growing up my poor Dad really suffered with his back he ended up having an operation because of a slipped disk the difference with how he was before and after the operation was huge,he was so much happier after the operation and it made living with him alot happier.
I know a couple of people that had back problems and they said they felt constantly cross and annoyed when they were in pain.

I hope your DH manages to get his back pain sorted out.

He's said he'll take DD1 out. I've promised to do the next two years!

Whoops. I'm the OP. Forgot I'd name changed!