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This is an AIBU and a WWYD.

We live East Midlands. Family coming to us for Christmas from south of France. BiL, wife and 2 DC driving, MiL flying. We have 4 bedrooms. I want DD and DS in our room, DN's in DS room, MiL in DDs room BiL and DW in spare room.

Bearing in mind our room has the space for DC's. DH wants MiL to share a room with DD (9.5) DS in his room with one DN and other DN in with his Parents - plus their baggage.

I think he IBVU. He thinks I am being over accommodating. How would you arrange it?

I think I agree with you but I'm confused with the symbols!

Your idea is best I think. How old are the kids and what's the mix of boys/girls? If they are quite young, I might put all kids in one room but obviously if you have teens or pre teens of mixed genders it might not be suitable.

I'd have DD with you and DS with his cousins (or vice versa depending on ages and sexes); then MIL on her own and SIL&BIL together.

I have DD9 and DS7. DNs are 8 and 5 and unless they've changed wake up at stupid o'clock and are very loud!

DNs are boys.

Then yes all the boys together.

So DH has invited five members of his family to stay in your family home already occupied by four people? Your plan sounds fine.

While all boys together sounds like great fun for them, wouldn't DD feel left out? Your DH way seems complicated and your way is probably best.

You and DH in your room.
Your DC's in together.
Mil and 8yo DN in together.
5yo DN with his parents.

If there are two beds in the room MIL in I'd stick Dd 9 in with her. Then DN's in one room You Dh and DS in your room and BIL and his DW in spare room.
My youngest DD has shared in twin beds with her Grandmother and they both loved it My boys used to get the floor of my room or theirs depending who was stopping over.

I'd do all boys in one room
Bil and his wife in one room
Mil in one room
You and your dh in one room
Then your dd in with you or your mil.

i'd probably assign rooms to the grown ups and let the chiddlers free range in together

that way any noise or malarkey and you can weed out the trouble makers, or if anyone wants a bit of peace and quiet they can go sleep with granny!

Penfold I invited them as I refused to go to France for Christmas. I said either they come or we don't see them. DH supported that.

MiL lives on her own so I thought having a room to herself would give her the opportunity to quiet time if she needed it.

I'd have BIL and SIL in 1 room, MIL in a room, DNs in a room, your DC and DH in a room, you in a hotel!

If not, if you can avoid having DC in your room I would. Then you have somewhere to retreat.

Queen I'm really liking the idea of a hotel.

OP I think your plan sounds fine.

I'd do it your way. Give your kids the option of bunking in with nephews on alternate nights if they want.