To tell ExDH to come pick the kids up now.

[MancKitten]

He has them weekends. Picks them up from school.

So usually Fridays I have the full day.

I have a manic weekend and week ahead. I literally have a list the size on my forearm and its been the school holidays this week. Also I have been sick. Really sick.

ExDH said he will pick kids up at 5pm. Like he would if they were in school.

But they aren't.

They are bored and fed up because it's been a horrendous week and I basically have to catch up a weeks worth of work in a day. Today.

AIBU to tell DH he really should come get them now because I've done this all week through illness and I've had enough now?

He isn't in work.

Don't you think things tend to run more smoothly if people are nice to each other Stealth? (Or at least reasonably pleasant).

Oh definitely. At no point have I said otherwise.
but there seems to be am assumption that the op would be asking her ex a huge favour and I'm curious as to why that is.

The favour is because he has no idea that the OP is ill, he doesn't know 5pm isn't convenient. So he might have arranged things to do before the kids come around (which is fine). This isn't a case of dad being pandered to, just that he's the one who's going to have to change his original plans (hence it being more a "favour" on his side).

No the issue I have is that "he said he will pick them up at 5pm". Assuming of course the op will have them until then. Presumably he knows theyre off school. Why is it the ops place to have them during the day?

Anyone else here feel sorry for the children?

Sorry you're having a shit week op, doesn't sound like the kids are having much fun either.

Until that text came through I don't think there had been any prior arrangements

Ah ok, I read that as just being that the original arrangements hasn't been changed. Not that he'd informed her it would be 5pm this week (just that nothing had really changed from other weeks)

Well from his point of view nothing has changed, he pucks them up after school as he can't have them any earlier.
From her point of view, she would usually be able to work on a Friday.
But the man's pov always seems to win out.

He should have had them when you got ill. Is there a reason for his lack of support?

Infact, he should have split the holiday with you before you got ill. What is his reason for not doing this or for not having them when you get ill?

But at present (at least how I read it), he's unaware that there are any issues for now. Hence asking him would be a good thing.

Where does he think they're going to be all day? Nothing has been arranged for them
(I realise this is now in the past :))