DH swearing - would this piss you off?

[muminmanchester]

For a few months now DH has been swearing whenever DS wakes in the night. Things like 'for fucks sake' or 'what the fuck does he want now'. It really upsets me and makes me feel like he's angry with DS for what is perfectly normal and reasonable behaviour. He's 10 months old and crying is the only way he can tell us something is wrong in the night.

DH is a fab dad and I have no concerns about him ever being angry or upset with DS, but the swearing really gets my protective instincts going and makes me very upset.

Would this piss you off? Or am I being over sensitive? It's so hard to tell when you've not slept properly for the best part of a year!!

I think you're being a bit too sensitive. I'm pretty sure I swore regularly when DD1 woke up (every night for 3 fucking years.).

Yes, you're being over sensitive but that's ok and perfectly normal, he's your baby!
I do the same thing if DH dares to swear about one of the children but it's perfectly acceptable for me to do! (Seeing as I'm the one getting up)
I find the swearing is less the younger they are, I definitely utter "for fucks sake" when Ds1 wakes. It's been every night at least once for four and a half years now...

DP and I regularly say 'FFS' if DS wakes in the night. As long as he's not sweating at your DC, I think you're being a bit over sensitive.

Ok. Thank you! I'll take my super sensitive hat off and put my sweary one on

It would upset me.

God I still swear when my 2 youngest wake up, mote so when its cold.....

There is a book called 'Go the fuck to sleep' - you should read it OP.

If he's a brilliant dad the rest of the time I wouldn't worry. X

Ffs is a pretty standard response to be woken for the nth time in my world.

I have uttered the same when DD wakes up, wouldn't worry me!

It would bother me.

Have a 7 month old like you my husband did the same otherwise he's a very good dad. I told him I didn't like it and he has stopped.

At 3 weeks old i told dh that i was going to find a window to chuck ds1 through

He tried to take the baby from me

I love and adore ds1 and would not have hurt him for anything...i was just venting

(To be fair he is a bit big to force through a window now)

We had the opposite! I used to swear and sometimes kick the bed when the kids woke up but that was my way of releasing the stress and when I went into them I was calm and kind.

Dh used to tell me to calm down and not to be so aggressive while he then fell back to bloody sleep.

The swearing kept me sane to be honest.

Nope I don't think you're being unreasonable and I think it adds to your stress. X