To invite 40 children to my 4 year olds birthday party?!

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There's a small gut instinct saying DON'T DO IT.

But I'm not sure how to pick from the nursery list?! I'm hoping half will say no....

My son is a bit rubbish at remembering names other than core set he's known well for 2 years!

And there's 12 coming from other places already.

It's a big school hall with 3 bouncy castles. I wasn't going to bother with games....!

So 52 kids?

It's going to be carnage sorry

Jesus. You will need a LOT of adults. I'd be tempted to skip the nursery lot and just go with the other 12...

You'll need at least 8 adults. (doors, loos, food, first aid, sorting arguments)
Do all food in advance and portion into boxes or bags.
Are they just going to run and bounce? Something else required ?simple craft or disco?
Doable but hard work.

If theres 40 in nursery they wont all be in the same group. It is likely he interacts with less than half. Have a word with his key worker asking her to identify who his friends are.

My eldest dd has never coped well with large parties even when she is a guest, 52 children is extremely overwhelming. I would reduce numbers

Not 52; 40 in total. I can't even get the numbers straight in my head....!

What about 30?!

All parents will be coming as they just seem to at the moment.

Invites yet to go out thank god.

I could send out a few and see what comes back; then add extra if it's not many?!

My son is quite a sociable child and loves big parties.

But I am a special needs teacher so sort of have a mild inkling how this could go either way.... or not? I think I loose perspective sometimes?!

Dear God no. Only if you've booked in some recovery time for yourself afterwards.
Can you ask his key worker to pick out his actual friends and just invite those?

We've always done large parties so go for it 40 in a large hall with three bouncy castles easy the only down side is party bags

40 or 30 - what's the point of inviting so many? Will he get the chance to play with them all?

Rather you than me is all I can see. As the song goes I predict a riot!
SmallBees suggestion is a very good idea. 52 is madness.
I had 12 at ds's 3rd birthday and vowed never again

Just ask his keyworker for a list of his 8/10 closest friends, giving you a total of 20ish - more than enough for a 4 year old!

I stupidly ran this past my husband in early planning stages....

You are brave. Or crazy! I wouldn't invite them all. Sit down with a list and ask DS. Try for around half? One tip, make sure you have lots of chairs round the edge for parents. We went to a similar size/age party recently and it felt so crowded as all the parents stayed and had to stand amongst the kids which made it feel much more crowded.

4 year olds plus bouncy castle sounds very risky!!

Once you include parents and extra siblings you could have nearly 100 people . It will be bananas.

I'd ask his key worker for 10 kids who he plays with tbh.

Trimmed down to the 6 who have invited him to parties and I know he plays with. So it's 15 confirmed (I just checked) plus 6 .

21 seems more manageable

Around 5 children are over 6 too.

And most of the 15 are close family friends so parents to help.

apologies for drip feeding!!

I'd hit on a cost effective party bag idea so that was fine.

megle yes.

Reality CHECK!!