To tell ds off after swimming lesson.

[ziggitypop]

Ds is 4, swims fairly well and has recently been put up into the next swimming group. First proper swimming group rather than toddler type water confidence groups.
After a handful of successful lessons I was pulled by the teacher and told that he had refused to do anything he was asked, did his own thing and continued to do so even after having time out.
This is out of character for him as he's generally well behaved and a bit of a people pleaser.
We have spoken to him and he "doesn't know"
I think there should be a consequence and a firm telling off for this because messing around in a pool is dangerous.
Dh thinks it's not that big of a deal and we should just leave it and see how he goes.
Would love your opinions?

If it was one class he is having an off day let it go.

Check he is enjoying it and make it clear at the beginning of the next lesson remind him to listen to the teacher..

I would also look at how big lessons are. I pulled my DS out of one swim school when he was about 4 as he was stood about for so long.

ziggitypop,
My daughter is 6 nearly 7 and has been having weekly swimming lessons since she was 5 and is very confident in the water and can swim 50 metres easily in water out of her depth.
However I have noticed that when she is learning something new and finds it difficult then she tends to ignore her instructor and do her own thing.
It's normal and soon passes when she is told to sit out of the pool .
Nothing to worry about,

I think at this age it's more effective to praise children when they behave. He had a telling off from the teacher has done time out already, Next week he will have probably forgotten.

I suggest you have a talk with him on what is expected behaviour before the lesson. Praise him for good paying attention or not putting his feet down. Assuming he has a better lesson.

He was probably having an off day and a bit bored. If you want him to continue learning to swim, remind him he needs to follow the teacher's instructions or no more swimming, then praise him if the report is better.

Comments like 'I'd wonder why he is good for everyone except this teacher' It is an attitude like that that will guarantee future bad behaviour, and not just for this teacher!