To think, 'When it rains, look for rainbows; when it's dark, look for stars' is

[yesterdaysunshine]

Bollocks?

Why do these silly meaningless quotes take off when quotes that ACTUALLY mean something are ignored/sidelined?

Fooky think we all have a twat like that on FB

OP you are the living embodiment of "some people walk in the rain - others just get wet."

Always look on the bright side of life . . .

The moon and stars one is scientifically inaccurate which really bothers me. The whole rainbow bridge thing on the death of a pet really annoys me too,. I find most of them are usually posted by "Aww, u ok hun" types who quickly get unfollowed by me.

I love the storm one. Course they have meaning.

Do you all hate the term 'rainbow babies' too?

Look I get why they annoy people but to me most of them are simply saying you can choose to deal with your struggles in a positive or negative way.

I kind of agree with the sentiment that the bad things in life often make you more grateful for the good. Which is the way it should be?

And no I don't have any tat like this around the house and I'm not on FB so don't share these memes. I do however have a framed postcard at work which says "Life is breathtakingly beautiful" - it was given to me by DP after we'd had our scan with our DC1 who was actually my 4th pregnancy after 3 miscarriages and no I've never referred to him as a rainbow baby

yanbu to dislike them.

yabu to piss on other peoples chips becaue you dislike them.

Sometimes those kind of things can really help someone having a shitty day.

Yanbu to dislike them. I do dislike many and think they are rubbish. However I like the after the storm comes a rainbow one for rainbow babies.

Hearing that quote after losing one baby, the year and emotional fallout from hell and my second being a threatened miscarriage who happily wiggled on screen at twenty weeks...I loved it. It summed up in a nutshell what I couldn't put into words.

Yabu to think them Bollocks. To someone else they are personal to them and do mean something.

Do you all hate the term 'rainbow babies' too?

I do actually. I wouldn't say so, because whatever way you want to deal with it is up to you, but yes I hate it. Especially so when someone insisted on referring to my child as one. Use all the twee labels you like on yourself, but don't slap them on others.

Is it on fakebook? Hate this crap, im a glass half empty sort and proud!

I would not ever in a month of Sundays dream of being so rude, so cruel or so crass as to criticise anything that brings comfort to a grieving parent, I have not lost a baby myself and I certainly am not in the habit of sneering at those who have because of a phrase.

However, I think my disdain for the 'when it rains' ones are because my Pinterest home feed is full of them as if they are hugely original somehow when clearly they are not!

I kinda like this one... Some days you are the pigeon and some days you are the statue (photo of a statue covered in pigeon shit)

I dislike the Welcome to Holland one that always gets trotted out to parents with SN kids. (You know - the one where they were going to go to Italy but ended up in Holland instead). While I applaud the point it's trying to make, I find the analogy deeply trivial and patronising. Looking after a SN child isn't a leisurely cycle down level paths, but a taxing climb through craggy mountains, and in some cases you really need your sherpa and oxygen tank. Holland - yeah, right.

Crikey. Certainly not exactly elegant in its expression but the message of "try and be optimistic" is hardly massively contentious. Being so painfully "anti" these kinds of cliches that you actually start threads slagging them off is hilarious though. All those people dancing in the rain while you whinge are having a blast while you sit on an anonymous thread and whinge about the way they express themselves. I'm off to "live, laugh, love" and wine rather than whine.

A friend got me this in a frame ...

This is brilliant.

'Actually start threads slagging them off'?

I'm pressing buttons on my phone, not putting bombs under soppy word art in the range!

Hmm! in a company I used to work for the MD had a load of posters with these so-called inspirational quotes. He got them framed and had them displayed all the way up the stairs and urged us all to take note of them when we came in to work. Needless to say he was a sales and marketing type. All the techies would roll their eyes and make vomiting mimes at them.

Personally they aren't for me but my friend lost her child when they were 4 weeks old and she takes great confit from the rainbows and stars one -so I don't judge

Comfort not confit -dont know where that came from?

No idea what this thread is about, does MN live in the real world?

Wow.. It's just people trying to be positive.

Don't like it? No big deal. I'm not keen on loads of cheesy sayings, but I'd not heard this one before and I quite like it. For various reasons my life is really fucking hard at the moment and a reminder to try and look for the beautiful things around you isn't a bad thing.

No-one is saying don't be positive. It is the reduction of all experience to a trite little saying that dismisses it as nothing; that is what is being commented on here.

You lost a baby/a parent/ a job/your home - no problem! Stop whining (coz I'm alright Jack), and dance in the fucking rain because we don't wanna hear it!

That's why people object.