Is he a lying cheating scum bag?

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I recently found emails on my husbands phone from a girl overseas that he met over 15 years ago as a teenager in a chat room. The emails themselves were fine besides the 'hey you' subject box. But suddenly I noticed my husband had sent her two separate links to songs asking her to listen to the lyrics. Both of which were basically love songs about missing and loving someone they can't have. He's never met her and he claims he was drunk and has no idea why he sent them. Should I be as hurt and upset and cross as I am or just get over it? Should I trust him when he says there's nothing to it?

''He's never met her and he claims he was drunk and has no idea why he sent them. Should I be as hurt and upset and cross ...?''

Would he be hurt upset and cross if you were sending drunken flirty messages to some bloke?!

The distance thing wouldn't change how i felt. Supposing next time he got drunk and fancied a bit of a flirt with a woman he chose someone local?

Nah, I'd be having a serious talk about needing some space. Suggesting he could piss off and live elsewhere for a bit and flirt with who he liked. And while he was gone so would I! See how that goes down. Grrrr.

Nat....I w

As you are fully aware, Nat, I am not 13 but behaviour like this belongs in that ballpark

Since I don't want to be married to a 13yo, it would be game over for me

When your husband is an actual embarrassment to you, it's time to stop making excuses and get the hell out

Well, if your relationship is in that bad situation, i'd worry about him finding someone in closer proximity than somebody who he never met and never will.

Well quite. If your husband thinks sending soppy lovesongs to another woman is appropriate who knows what else he thinks is appropriate? To be holding a torch for someone else when in a relationship isn't cool. And you say you are no threat to his wife, but his feelings and actions are a threat to her marriage.

No need to be rude