To "waste" a weeks annual leave on this?

[NapQueen]

I work 4 days a week but shifts so any of the seven weekdays, starting as early as 7am and working as late as 11.30pm. This is facilitated by the fact that dh works mo -Fri 8-4 term time only.

He is away with work next February (not the half term) mon-fri and we were chatting about it.

I had said to him that I would be taking the mon-fri off work (tagging it onto the full week we are both off prior for a fair holiday) as it would make life easier with the kids (2 and 5).

Dh thinks this is "unnecessary" and that I can just ask to do Earlies. Meaning I'd have to have the dcs dropped at the cm by 6.30am! Whilst I imagine the cm wouldn't mind as a random week, I honestly don't want to have the stress of (1) trying to wangle Earlies all week (2) having to put onto the cm and (3) being exhausted by the constant much earlier starts - I would need to be up at least 30 mins earlier to get the kids and me ready and really wouldn't be too much fun after work as I'd be shattered!

I have lots of AL, at least 5 weeks plus all 8 bank holidays.

Aibu to just want a nice relaxing week with the kids??

It is lovely to sometimes have a week off and do leisurely school pick-ups/drop offs, ask how their day went as you wander home, cuddle up to do reading and generally forget about childminders, rushing home from work to do tea and all that kerfuffle.

Don't agree it's none of his business. I think annual leave is a joint family resource, like money.

I'd be annoyed if my DH took a week's leave and said it was entirely up to him.

But this is a good use of leave, it'll be a shit & stressful week for everyone otherwise.

I honestly am really looking forward to it. I get masses of stuff done at home when my days off fall on weekdays answer being able to do the school run and take ds out for some 1:1 time while his sister is a at school is such a treat.

I also agree with Patsy99 that annual leave is a joint resource.

BUt I still think he's being unreasonale. This sounds like a good use of annual leave for you and the children. HE would have to be clearer about why he disagreed.

Yep if he can make a better case for it I may feel obliged to look into it.

Today I was at my desk for 7am and put the kids to bed at 7pm. I'm good for nothing after that. Chucked a pizza in the oven, watched a corrie and have been MNING in bed for the past hour.

Four or five days of that? No thabks!!

Sounds sensible to me and nicer for the children (unless they are like mine and boing awake at 5am anyway). I also wouldn't want to put the childminder out if it weren't really necessary.

I expect he just hasn't thought it through.