To quit my job over this?

[mamma125]

Work in an independent cafe, sister has gotten me the job as she works there too, one day a week job after having DD to ease me back in before full time.
Today my boss asked me to remove mouldy strawberries (and we're talking blue and green fluff, wouldn't know it was a strawberry if you weren't told kind of mould) from the top of a cupcake and replace with slightly less mouldy strawberries (went out of date on the 17th, it's the 23rd).
It's not the first time some serious food hygiene neglect has happened, and to be honest all in all the place is shoddy, the food is sub-par and everything's overpriced. Looking at the trip advisor reviews it's a miracle anyone comes in at all.
Sister still lives at home with our parents, my dad has said he'll be quite upset if I quit job because it'll reflect badly on my younger sister.
AIBU to quit over this? I'm so mortified and embarrassed to work there!

Why is DD keeping a job so important to him??

Are there issues there where he thinks she is lazy or something.Or is he just a nasty man who thinks DDs should get a job and stop scrounging, or something (and skanky caff is good enough).

I think you need to talk to your sister. Your dad may be awful, but he is correct that if she pushed for you to get hired and you then quit after a short time, that puts her in a very awkward position.

she is 16 so this is just a part time job for her too. if you quit will she be sacked?
you dont have to say why you quit
but in the meantime you could see if you could find her a job somewhere else but surely it is up to her

He is more concerned with me quitting might lead to my sister being sacked- which I'm sure would be unfair dismissal.

I've reported them to the FSA and will text my bosses wife (she owns the business itself) and say that I won't be returning to work after I was put in a compromising position that left me torn between standing up to my boss and being fired, or harming people by serving them unsafe food. I no longer feel comfortable working here.

I tend to avid confrontation even over electronic communication so I'm bricking it a bit! I can easily find another job, in fact my sister could too, she's just a little scared of moving on from the familiar. Thank you all for your responses, very helpful and insightful

" If she has a contract he cannot fire her because you left."

He can if she hasn't been there for 2 years, which seems likely as the sister is only 16.

I think you'll be showing your sister a really good example about standing up for your principles and not being intimidated by others. This will hopefully be very useful to her, especially given your father's controlling nature. Getting another job at her age should be helpful to her in building up confidence, working with a range of people etc.

You've handled this situation really well. Well done.

was it best before or use by?

It was MOULDY fruit on cupcakes in a café. BB/UB dates are on packaged food and not relevant to this scenario. Did you even read the OP?

I don't think you need to tell your boss the real reason you are leaving - that will likely have repercussions for your sister, especially as they will be having a visit from food standards shortly!

By all means quit, and report them, but you can make things easier on your sister by giving a different reason for leaving, e.g. DD not fitting in at nursery, or getting to start your next job earlier.

ladymonica i did read it,

but the fruit was taken off, the out of date cakes, i was simply asking the cakes were out of date by best before or use by?

and i agree, you will not help situation by telling the wife Why you are leaving.

It sounds to me as though your decisions are regarded within the family as having a potential negative impact on your sister, when actually it is the business owner who would be responsible for any decision regarding the potential sacking of your sister, and who would be to blame in the event of any such outcome.

Are you often blamed for things that aren't really your fault within the family?

Good for you love.

Bet you'll be a major asset to whomever you do your apprenticeship with.

mamma She can't claim unfair dismissal unless on specific protected grounds until she's been employed for two years. This doesn't sound like it would qualify.

I wouldn't tell bosses wife why you're leaving. You're creating needless confrontation and it will make your sisters job untenable when the food safety inspection takes place. Just say it's not working out and you'll reduce stress all round.

Can't tell her why I'm leaving as I'll have to work for two weeks after handing in my notice so best to not make life awkward!!

Side note: my family are ridiculous. My grandparents are very strong minded and as a result raised my father and aunt to be stupidly stubborn and up their own arses. They are bullies, to put it nicely. My mother is absolutely lovely, she's tried to be supportive but doesn't agree with me leaving.

The whole thing has caused so mane arguments with the family it's laughable. You couldn't make it up. "My whole family had a nasty argument over mouldy cupcakes at my work".

Won't working one day a week mess up your benefits?

If your DD is 4 isn't she used to 'seperation' when she goes to nursery?

What a mad reaction from your family. I can understand that your 16 year old sister doesn't fully understand food hygiene just yet, she's still a child. But it's amazing just how stupid and unsupportive your dads being.

Your dad should have no input into this decision at all. He should be supporting both his daughters in their life choices.

My daughter is only just 7 months old (today!), she doesn't go to nursery :) the only benefit I get is child benefit and housing benefit so no it doesn't affect anything