I have gone NC with my mother (possible undiagnosed PD) for the sake of my own mental health. Recently, my brother and his wife visited and I got questioned on this from SIL. Things like why don't I explain how I feel, I can always speak to my brother about it. That i should say at the time if the stuff my mum does upsets me. I was a bit taken aback. I don't know SIL very well. Then she said she'd seen the texts on my mum's phone. (from before I went NC). I should have asked why? (odd for mum to share these and even odder if she looked without asking). Then I was asked what I had been talking about with my brother earlier (just he was asking if mum had been being a nightmare again). I just find it all a bit interfering. Even if you don't understand NC (I had given the address for Out of the FOG site for info) why try to get others to change. I wasn't trying to tell them what to do. Or AIBU? Feeling confused. I can't imagine quizzing her about her relationship with her mother.