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To be pissed off with dp?

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Ginmakesitallok · 23/10/2016 11:29

Dd1's birthday in a couple of weeks. For her present we decided to get tickets for her favourite band, nice hotel, just me and her. Dp arranged the tickets (I was getting nowhere on my phone). I just asked that he get decent ish ones - not the most expensive, but not too far from stage. So he says we're in first row of seats, slightly to the side.

I've just checked on the seating plan - we're 3 rows from the fucking back!!

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RhiWrites · 23/10/2016 12:03

Buy new seats online, sell the old ones and tell your partner never again to lie to you and cheap out on his kids. That's outrageous behaviour. What a cock.

Gileswithachainsaw · 23/10/2016 12:05

What rhi said.

We all make mistakes. He needs to own up apologies and try and correct it. Not shrug it off.

I'd be very deeply suspicious given I'm. Assuming the seats were labelled cost wise? So he'd have known they were the wrong ones when he went to pay for them

MsJamieFraser · 23/10/2016 12:07

It was a mistake, your being overly angry.

midlifehope · 23/10/2016 12:07

if you want a job doing properly.... do it yourself ;)

diddl · 23/10/2016 12:09

What did he use to buy the tickets?

Just thinking if your phone was no good & you were next to him & he has form & this is important...

He should apologise though & you should accept that if it was a genuine mistake.

Can the tickets be exchanged?

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Ginmakesitallok · 23/10/2016 12:12

No seats aren't labelled cost wise- he didn't do it deliberately. I'm not so much angry as really really frustrated with him! I want to give him a shake! He's just said he'll call them on Monday to see if he can get them upgraded. No idea who he thinks "them" are - and have said I don't think it works that way....

I'm fed up.

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VinoTime · 23/10/2016 12:16

It was a mistake, OP. It's not the end of the world.

Buy new tickets and flog the others, or stick to the ones you've got. Either way, you and DD will go and have a fantastic time.

ConvincingLiar · 23/10/2016 12:21

I'd see if the ticket seller will let you upgrade. Might be possible. If it's not a sellout, I wouldn't bank on reselling the current ones.

ConvincingLiar · 23/10/2016 12:21

And yes, it's annoying he's not sorry for his mistake.

artiface · 23/10/2016 12:27

Yep, I've done the seeing the seating plan as being the other way around thing as well! There is a website called tickets where they sell returns for face value if that helps...

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Ginmakesitallok · 23/10/2016 12:27

I know it's not the end of the world. It just annoys me that every time he makes a mistake I end up being the one who looks unreasonable!

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artiface · 23/10/2016 12:28

twickets, not tickets

RhiWrites · 23/10/2016 12:57

Why are you saying its a mistake when he showed you one thing and bought another? Especially when his response is to say it's your problem because you agreed to the thing he showed you?

Surely this was deliberate?

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Ginmakesitallok · 23/10/2016 13:30

No it wasn't deliberate. He was offered tickets in block 300, row 200. He showed me the seats in block 200- he made a mistake about where the seats he was buying were. He's the sort of man who makes mistakes - not the sort of man who deliberately lies. I've been with him 23 years- I know he doesn't lie about stuff like this

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Ginmakesitallok · 23/10/2016 13:30

And now I'm defending him ffs ! Grin

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JoJoSM2 · 23/10/2016 13:36

It's a bit unfortunate but he's offered to try and fix it n Monday.... I think your reaction is out of proportion.... Not to mention you sent him off to buy the tickets and he isn't even invited... your daughter will have a lovely time either way and you need a chill pill...

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Ginmakesitallok · 23/10/2016 13:42

My reaction has been to have a wee rant on here - how is that disproportionate? I didn't "send him off to buy tickets" - he offered to spend 2 mins online ordering them, and he didn't want to come!

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neonrainbow · 23/10/2016 13:45

God your poor husband he did you a favour, made a mistake and this is the thanks he gets? You sound like a mardy brat. She still gets to go to the show is really not the end of the world. What do you do when something actually serious happens!?

OurBlanche · 23/10/2016 13:45

I suspect JoJo hasn't shared any part of her life with someone who makes a mistake and just shrugs their shoulders muttering meh!

It can be infuriating. Yes, errors occur, some can be corrected. But it would be nice if the person who made the error acknowledged they had, rather than treating the person who noticed as some kind of ogre!

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Ginmakesitallok · 23/10/2016 13:50

Neon - he offered to do one simple thing. He made a mistake. He refused to see he'd made a mistake. I ranted on here. I never said it was the end of the world. I just wanted hin to take some responsibility. It is not a reflection of our whole relationship.

Blanched - that's it exactly!

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ElBandito · 23/10/2016 13:56

How is buying your own child's birthday gift 'doing your wife a favour'?

JoJoSM2 · 23/10/2016 14:00

OP, your reaction is extreme- regardless of what you've said to him, you're clearly infuriated (if in doubt, reread your posts) over a small mistake that he'll try to fix tomorrow...

RedHelenB · 23/10/2016 14:01

YABU - he bought the wrong seats, mistakes happen.

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Ginmakesitallok · 23/10/2016 14:01

Which bits of my reaction were extreme?? Confused

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Gileswithachainsaw · 23/10/2016 14:05

God can't anyone rant anymore.

Only in MN would a man taking on an aspect of parenting or job around the house be viewed as being a "favour"

One job and he screwed it up.

That in itself is usually forgivable but the attitude that it doesn't matter or that someone not kissing their feet with gratitude over said screw up is somehow the one in the wrong is a huge problem.