Okay so, I'm the current and sole breadwinner in my household, supporting dc and Dp. Dp is self employed freelancer, who struggles to make any significant amount of money. He doesn't so much refuse to get a 'proper' job, but he'll look for a bit after I whinge at him to keep me sweet for a couple more months.
For a few years now he's been trying to persuade me to move to a bigger city where he's more likely to get better contacts and possibly more work. Now, I have several issues with this. One, while I have transferable skills and probably won't struggle to find work wherever I live (healthcare) we only just survive on my wage now. If we move rent and general day to day costs will be a lot higher, so he would have to get a 'proper' job in order for us to survive. Two, when I've brought up this rather valid point, he promised to get a job, and I quote, 'because I'll be living somewhere where I'm going to happier'. Now this annoys me because while yes you should be happy in your work, surely having children should be a good enough reason to want to work?
Anyway point 3, I'll be moving away from my friends and family, and moving dds school where she's very happy. Albeit not very far, only 40 miles down the road, but we already rely on family for childcare and it won't be as readily available, and if we're both working childcare expenses will add to our already limited funds, and I like the fact that my mum is 20 minutes away by bus.
Aibu? Or should I give it a chance? I'm not going to lie that my anxiety is playing a part in my reluctance here either.