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To think this text was insensitive?!

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Lasagne1 · 21/10/2016 23:50

I have a 2 year old DD and have a friend with a DD about a year older. She has a partner who she lives with and is her DDs dad and all is well for her.

I left my DDs dad because of EA and he was utterly vile to me. He loves our daughter though and so far I have viewed no red flags in terms of her, just me, so he still sees her every other weekend. We separated in about January.

At the time, I opened up to my friend, she was there for me when I was angry about the split and when I was heartbroken that I had to let her go so she could spend time with him. She was struggling with her DDs dad herself and we used to discuss it together - however since then they have worked things out.

Tonight I got a text off her saying 'wow, really dont get how you leave DD every other weekend LOL, my DD has gone to her grandmas a night and has only been gone an hour and I just can't stop crying'

Aibu to think this is incredibly insensitive? I don't give my daughter away by choice. Yes, I've grown to enjoy my baby free time, but considering she was the one I turned to when I was heartbroken over it, I genuinely think this was such an insensitive comment to make

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Lasagne1 · 22/10/2016 02:16

Thanks all. I had posted the post and then replied anyway (it was a whatsapp so blue ticks pressurised me!!) and fortunately I replied what most advice was saying.. that it isn't an easy thing to do but essentially I don't have a choice! She replied 'true' So probably realised she was being a bit insensitive and backed off.

I will agree with what you are all saying, that it's not malicious just insensitive. I'm possibly just a bit touchy at the moment due to a lot of stress.

Thank you itshouldhavebeenjess, it really meant a lot. It's a struggle having contact with the ex who made my life miserable and putting on a smile ...but seeing how much she adores seeing him is worth it Smile

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