Prepared to be flamed BUT ITS NOT A SO**ING DRESSING ROOM

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Ok, so DS 18 moves out. We have three bedrooms upstairs and a bathroom with a bath. Downstairs has been heavily expanded so we have the room to expand our bedroom to incorporate a large walk in dressing room and a wet room. This will hopefully be done next year. DD has one room and we have the other.

However, my gripe is is that I am up very early and normally leave the house for work before anyone is even up so DH put my dressing table in DS room when he moved out so that I wouldn't wake him up, We keep having the same stupid argument as my DH says that I am very lucky and ungrateful to have my own "dressing room" - in reality its a spare room I use not to wake anyone else up. We even nearly split up over it as I wont back down.

It is a SPARE room with some of my stuff in it - not a sodding dressing room. I use this room so that I don't wake up DH or DD.

Now, if I had the extension I want, I could shower upstairs, organise all my clothes and get ready in style. I see this totally different.

DS has also moved back in and I feel like he should have his room back as the downstairs spare room is slightly damp (wouldn't be so bad if he didn't have 20 wet towels all over the floor). I feel DS should has his room back - DH & I don't have an active sex life so cant see the problem.

So, am I an ungrateful B""CH like DH calls me?

This isn't really about what you call a room is it?

Sorry to say I agree with persian There are way more issues here than a room here.

You've nearly split up? Your (supposed D)H is calling you an ungrateful bitch? Over a room?!!! It's just a room of your house.

Only thing I'd be doing is opening the front door and sending "D"H through it.

susannah

I'm not sure how it's come about, but I'd heard MN doesn't issue/let you create a username when signing up. You have to change it from userxxxxxxxx to a username under the settings.

Could be completely wrong, I signed up years ago.

Its the username the site gave me, is this a problem?

My family paid for the work as they gave me some inheritance my dad received.

My DD is 4 and has learning difficulties so we pay for her to go to a nursery full time which she loves.

I suffer from severe depression and anxiety amongst other disabilities so I struggle with the 3 hour commute to work and a 9 hour day.

I'm just pissed off that he made such a big deal out of a bloody room that's an actual spare bedroom not a dressing room.

He would love to have the extension done but we cant afford it this year. After Ive paid everything, I have just under £100.00 left a week and that includes paying £50.00 a week petrol and tobacco.

We have had sex twice this year and cant see if happening again but I have put on 5 stone this year due to my disabilities. I live in constant pain.

Anyway, should I be grateful for this bloody room?

A caring husband would have helped you to see the positives in the current room set up without belittling you. He might even have opened up a conversation about how make what you have, now, work a little better for you without blowing the budget. t the very least, he would have tried to empathise and not call you an ungrateful bitch.

My ex called me a bitch. Once. Once too often.

could really do with a glass of

I think our relationship has run its course if we argue over a dressing room and the fact he shouted in front of DD (something we never do)! and that I was to shut up before he lost it.

Did he make that threat to you? In front of your DD?

You're probably right about your relationship having run its course. I suspect the depression and anxiety might be somewhat alleviated without him around.

Financially, some of the pressure will ease once your DD is in school full time and you're not paying nursery fees. If you're not claiming DLA for her, then that's worth looking at. If she's entitled, that will also boost any child tax credit you may qualify for on just your salary. You appear to be in a situation where it's safe to sit tight while you work out what's what, Do your research, take legal advice etc.