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AIBU?

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To be offended by this word in a children's play?

108 replies

amammabear · 18/10/2016 21:26

My kids are currently taking part in Elf the musical, and one of the lines has Buddy the Elf singing "making toys is so fantastic that I shake until I'm spastic!".

Now I'm really struggling with this, I have a condition that causes muscles spasms myself (developed as an adult) but I grew up under the impression that "spastic" isn't considered appropriate any more. Before I raise it with the theatre group, I wanted to know what others think.

My children aren't singing it, only Buddy, but my parents agree with me that it's not appropriate and my Mum thought that if even one person in the audience is offended, it could be harmful to the groups reputation. So, AIBU?

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Bringmewineandcake · 18/10/2016 21:27

Nooo!! That's awful and definitely not acceptable.

Soubriquet · 18/10/2016 21:29

Could you suggest some alternatives?

EdmundCleverClogs · 18/10/2016 21:30

Seriously?! No, not ok, not in any context!

dementedpixie · 18/10/2016 21:30

'Shake like I'm elastic'?

littlejeopardy · 18/10/2016 21:30

YANBU! Is this a play the school has written themselves or is this an official script tied into the movie?

DownWithThisSortaThing · 18/10/2016 21:30

No YANBU it's an offensive term for disability, I thought that was pretty standard knowledge that it's not an acceptable word!

hesterton · 18/10/2016 21:31

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SnipSnipMrBurgess · 18/10/2016 21:31

Jesus Christ!Shock

TasteLikeCherryChapstick · 18/10/2016 21:31

100% not acceptable!

TheLambShankRedemption · 18/10/2016 21:32

YANBU inappropriate and offensive, definitely complain.

bumsexatthebingo · 18/10/2016 21:32

I would imagine it is being used in the context of spasming rather than the offensive term for someone who has cp but considering how the term has been used I don't think you are unreasonable to think it's inappropriate.

LauraPalmersBodybag · 18/10/2016 21:33

Yanbu

NickyEds · 18/10/2016 21:33

I'm genuinely shocked. YANBU at all.

amammabear · 18/10/2016 21:34

Oh gosh, I'm so relieved!

My alternative suggestion would have been frantic.

It's the official Junior version of the West End/Broadway musical which is obviously linked to the original but non-musical film.

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Pastaagain78 · 18/10/2016 21:34

Not acceptable at all!

monkeysox · 18/10/2016 21:34

Yanbu Angry

amammabear · 18/10/2016 21:35

In looking into it myself, it doesn't seem to be off limits in the US, but this is UK.

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SailingThroughTime · 18/10/2016 21:37

Tbh I thought this was a wind up/goady fucker - it's that awful.
Definitely not acceptable. Please complain. Bugger it - tell me where it is and I'll complain for you if you don't fancy it.Shock

RoseGoldHippie · 18/10/2016 21:37

Is it a school play?

I don't think it's really acceptable but if it is a professional play you may find it hard to have then change it

user1471521456 · 18/10/2016 21:37

Have they bought an American script off the internet? There are several words that are acceptable in the US that we would be considered disablist in the UK.

LordTrash · 18/10/2016 21:38

Is it an American musical?

I have friends in the US who had no idea that 'spastic' is considered offensive in the UK, and use it constantly to mean 'mildly daft'. They were amazed when I explained its connotations over here.

All the same, that line in the script should definitely be altered!

bumsexatthebingo · 18/10/2016 21:39

Is it quite old then? I couldn't see this word being in a modern song. They need to bring it up to date. They wouldn't leave racial slurs in I hope and this is no different.

RhodaBorrocks · 18/10/2016 21:39

That's disgusting. You are definitely NBU! And either frantic or elastic works well.

FWIW, when I was in West Side Story as a young teen, our teacher changed the line "on the whole buggin' mother-lovin' street" to "ever-lovin' " because she felt even mother-lovin' was too close to Sondheim's intended meaning.

amammabear · 18/10/2016 21:45

It's an official script from the Broadway Junior Collection, I don't know if links are allowed, but on here, if you click on songs, then happy all the time, the clip includes that line.

www.mtishows.com/elf-the-musical-jr

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WankersHacksandThieves · 18/10/2016 21:51

Are they definitely doing that version or have you just googled and heard it? Is there a chance they've already decided to change it? I'd definitely approach them about it though, it's not a term that I think should be included in a children's musical or anywhere really nowadays.

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