To feel slightly put upon

[voluptuagoodshag]

Get a text from a parent asking if her DS can come back to play at ours after we've had dinner until 8pm coz he's been pestering her but she doesn't want us to feel intruded upon. DS is ok with it even though he already has a pal round for a sleepover and they were going to watch a film.

I text the parent to say it's ok and The DS duly arrives with his younger brother in tow. Film now cannot be watched as it's got an age rating so they play video games instead and then when I stick my head round the door at 8 to tell them it's time to go I'm told that the parent said it was ok for them to stay until 8.30. I texted parent to ask if this was the case but no reply and I don't want to send kids home in case no one is there.
It's not a huge problem but I can't help feeling that the parents just wanted rid of their kids for a couple of hours peace. This is fine but why not just say so!!!

I don't think her reply changes anything either. My kids invite their friends over all time, but unless it's convenient for me, I say no. All my 'mum' friends work on the same understanding. And also, if one of dc's friend are asked over, there isn't usually an unsaid invitation for all their siblings either.

She sounds like a complete pisstaker. Say no in the future. How dare she try and make you feel guilty.

How old are the kids?

It morphed into 8.30 because Billy had asked his Mum if it was ok and she had said yes as long as it was ok with me but no kid or parent bothered to check with me if it was. She didn't pick up my text asking if 8 was ok as she was in shower.
Things made slightly more embarrassing as she had asked if Mark would like to have come for a sleepover tonight and she'd take them to skatepark another day.
However I don't feel too guilty as like I said, she has form for this when there was absolutely no misunderstanding and all too often Alan has appeared without being asked. Also kids need to learn to check with me before inviting pals and extending their time.

Oh and kids are 12 with sibling 9 I think. Sorry I gave them names for ease.
Also transpires that Mark had told Billy not to bring Alan so they could watch film.
If it had been a one off I would just have been irked and not said anything but small things have happened too often and I've always had the gut instinct that the boys' friendship has to be 'managed' as Billy can be a bit sly. Last night on day 3 of hormonal migraine I'd just had enough but of course it backfired a bit. Mark is grounded today and isn't going there for a sleepover and we've had a discussion about communication and checking first.

Op, are they the real names? You might want to ask for those posts to be scrubbed if so as they're a bit identifying.

Sorry, I see they're not the real names Ignore me.