I may be being unreasonable here so I will put it to the Mumsnet test....
I don't drive and our nearest Toysrus is really awkward to get to.
I do salary sacrifice each month to buy toysrus vouchers which I keep for Christmas presents for DS. I have done this for years and Exp and I usually go and pick out the presents which he then gives me half the money back for. He drives. This will be the third Christmas since we separated and for the last two we have continued the usual pattern.
This year he has a new partner and she won't let him drive me to Toysrus so now I have all these vouchers and a bloody hefty taxi fare. I can get the two buses there but can't carry presents on the bus home, can't order online with vouchers to get the stuff delivered.
AIBU to think she is being ridiculous and we are hardly going to be romancing on the soft toy aisle. It is good to communicate over what we are each getting so we don't double up and we do get between us the things DS wants.
Just so I don't have to drip feed, the GF regularly texts me, rings me, pops in to pick DS up and stays for a couple of hours. I always back her up to ds and tell him he must do as she says. I am friendly to her and we get on well. She always tells me about their rows and really over shares about their relationship but I have never discouraged her from being with him or anything.
TBH I am not really comfortable with the relationship I seem to have with his new GF, but she comes across as insecure and I wouldn't like her to feel that I was anything for her to worry about. It suits me that EX is with her and has somewhere nice to take DS and DS likes the GF and she is really involved with him when he is there. I would really like to not hear about their problems but don't want to make her feel I am the enemy.
Exp doesn't come into my home anymore, he picks up from the door, we don't communicate except about DS and I have always tried to be a friend to their relationship, I am no threat to her in anyway. We are friendly at pick up and drop off as in there is no bad feeling between us or anything but as he is in a new relationship we keep appropriate boundaries. We don't have each other on social media, no phone calls etc etc.
The other week Exp was helping one of my neighbours with something, he used to live in my house so knows the neighbours. in the space of time he was there she rang me twice to ask me to go and knock on the neighbours and ask him to ring her, gave him 48 missed calls, text me saying she can't believe he has fucked off and left her when she doesn't feel well, said she needs to go to the walk in doctors and if he doesn't answer she will lock him out, then asked me to ring her and put him on the phone. He wasn't at mine, he was at the neighbours and I was at home with the kids. She feels ill all the time BTW this isn't a new thing, she is always saying she feels sick, has fallen down stairs, is having a heavy period, has a headache. why she feels I need to know all this is beyond me.
The GF is 17 (almost 18 and Ex lives with her in her home), I am 30 and Ex is 28.
So anyway that's really long!!
AIBU to think my sons dad should be allowed to go to toysrus and pick some presents with his mum!
Oh and I know I seem really over involved in their relationship but it really is not down to me. I had a thread previously where her mum had rung me and I was nice and reassuring and it has escalated from there and got out of hand!