I know this is only a small thing but I'm beginning to find it slightly irritating.
This year we've had 10 friends/couples/their small children to stay varying from 1 night to 2 week. We pride ourselves on being generous welcoming hosts, the room they stay in is very nice, I provide expensive shampoos/soaps etc soft towels and flowers, we are warm friendly and easy going. I cheerfully cook special requests, I remember what people's favourite dishes are and try an do it, (most would say I'm a very good cook) and go to great lengths to cater for special diets, visitors are free to help themselves to any food they fancy. Friends are free to use our house as a base to see our area (we live in an AONB) or join in our lives as they please.
We only have two rules, 1 I use a stair gate that keeps my dogs downstairs, one dog in particular is obsessed about going upstairs and they love to get on beds and I don't want them doing this, so I ask visitors can they keep it shut and 2 the doorway to my entrance hall must be shut before opening the front door so that my dogs who aren't overly bright would follow a person out the front and get run over. I genuinely don't think this is too much to ask. When visitors arrive I lightheartedly explain this to them. But no one ever does, as time goes by I ask them in an increasingly firm way but again few take it on board, yesterday was the final straw a friend staying left the bloody stairgate open and the door into the entrance hall and the front door open, leaving me running around after my dogs, I just wanted to scream "why can't you shut the the f***g gate/door how many times do I have to ask.
AIBU?
If no how do I get my message across without actually being rude.
I've thought about a self closer on the door to the entrance hall but the stair gate is a different matter. I just don't get it you've bent over to open it why can't you just shut it behind you.