Am I being a spoilsport?

[ByeByeLilSebastian]

Dh is desperate for us to go away for a long weekend with the kids to Norway for the Christmas markets.
Sounds good yeah?
Not to me. The children are young (one is a toddler, one has behavioural issues). I'm stressing already at the thought of it. The getting them through the airport, the flight, bustling them through busy markets, everyone sleeping in one hotel room....

It sounds like hell wrapped up in a nice bow to me.

If I say no he'll go on about how I need to be more spontaneous. He's probably right but I like being boring and safe.

Aibu?

[ByeByeLilSebastian]

To be fair he would organise all the travel side

[saoirse31]

Maybe you'll have a great time. If you're constantly just wanting to go nithing, but stay home, wheres the fun in that ?

[saoirse31]

Do nothing

[Bagina]

And when you get there, "I'm not watching the kids cos it's my birthday." "I'm having a drink cos it's my birthday". "I'm having a lie in cos it's my birthday." Obviously I don't know your dh, but just putting it out there.

[SolomanDaisy]

Is he 12? He doesn't get to drag the whole family on a trip they won't enjoy just because it's his birthday. Also, does he realise just how massively expensive it will be when you get there? Because it's a lot of money to spend on one person's birthday.

[GabsAlot]

wtf would two young kids enjoy shoppng which is whatit is at the end of the day

its cold dark and expensive-cant u got to disney instead

[scattercushion]

Go shopping this weekend - trudge round and round outside until he sees sense.

[ByeByeLilSebastian]

What else can you do in Oslo? Shopping would take up half a day so there'd be another 2 1/2 days to fill. My eldest is a nightmare if he's not able to be active. Sitting in coffee shops isn't easy with them.

He's in a grump now because I keep being realistic.

[InTheDessert]

Have you added on all the extras for the Ryanair flights? Seat booking, so your not scattered through the cabin, luggage allowance, taxes, etc etc etc and come up with an actual flight cost rather than a headline cost??

Dirty weekend away without the kids for his birthday sounds good, if you can find someone to look after them

[myownprivateidaho]

Yanbu not to want to go, but I don't agree with all the comments that it sounds awful etc. Ultimately people do travel with kids and have a good time. Your dh is trying to suggest something nice for you all to do. I don't think the assumptions that the op will be putting in all the "shit work" and the dh doing nothing more than buying air tickets are justified.

I think it sounds like this holiday isn't going to work for you. BUT if as you say you are always turning down your DH's plans I think that could be a little u (depending on the plans). What about suggesting a mini break abroad in the spring instead and doing your local towns Christmas market at Xmas?

[fourquenelles]

What scattercushion said or get really bad D&V the night bfore the flight and send him off with your two DCs

[TimetohittheroadJack]

Call me a humbug but I think all Christmas markets are shit, with or without kids of any age. Who wants to stand outside, in December, eating some sort of posh roll and sausage while getting bustled about by other people. Who wants a glass of mulled wine in a plastic coffee cup standing outside in the cold. Fuck that. I want a seat and heating inside. And who wants to be on a ride that goes 100ft high and spins round about when it's freezing. I swear another five minutes I would have had frostbite.