To not go to work?

[ihateteeth]

I've NC as this could be quite identifying.

Last week I had a bleed and painful cramps and thought I had miscarried, however, following a scan my baby is okay but I have a big bleed and was told I needed complete rest or it would lead to haemorrhage.

I took 2 days off work last week and I was told not to return to work until I was 2 days clear from bleeding. My bleeding has slowed right down and I think it may have stopped this morning but I'm still getting pain.

AIBU to take today off too? I can work from home but my job can be stressful and I've got to be on the ball- I hate letting work down and I have only just recently returned following maternity leave so feel extra guilty.

You've been told to stay home so do and don't feel bad about it

Got to put your health and your baby first. Have the day off and let them know you're following doctors orders. Go back when you've not bled for two days and you're not cramping.

Hope you feel better soon.

Absolutely don't go to work, no brainer.

Not at all. You were told 2 clear days from bleeding, which you are not!

If you can work from home, there is your compromise!

Hope you are ok x

Put yourself and your baby first.

Follow the medical advice you have been given.

Lecture over! :) can you tell I'm a DM?

Congratulations too

YANBU unless there are likely to be negative repercussions. In which case I'd work from home if poss.

Do not go to work, do not work from home.

Get your arse back in bed and r st.

If it all goes wrong baby-wise you do not want to spend your life wondering "what if?"

Also - if you do haemorrhage then you will miss loads of work. Better to miss a few days now than weeks later.

Don't go. I had a similar thing in this pregnancy and having had a miscarriage one cycle previous, I wasn't taking any chances. I had a huge amount of time off work but noticed the more I did, the more I bled. Not being at work saved my sanity.

Thank you- I've decided to go back to bed and rest ...

Sensible call to rest!

I had 2 months off work with bleeding in the first trimester of this pregnancy, and I'm now at 33 weeks. I'd had 3 mc and I wasn't prepared to risk it.

All the best for this pregnancy

I used to work in HR and i'd be cross if you came in. Not just for your sake but it puts your colleagues in an unfair position if something terrible were to happen. I'm glad you are going back to bed, try to rest as much as you can.

You rest up without a moments guilt. You need time to physically and emotionally recover. Sleep, and bad daytime tv for you! You've had a really rough time of it by the sounds of things, be kind to yourself.

I had a haematoma also - told to do nothing until two weeks clear of bleeding. Take off all the time you need - I don't know exactly what type of bleed you have been diagnosed with, but don't be surprised if it happens again - I had about 5 major bleeds and all ok each time.