To be fed up with 5yo wetting himself DAILY

[LittleMilla]

DS1 is 5.5 and manages to piss himself, in some capacity, EVERY DAY!

When we ask him, he often says that he doesn't realise that he's doing it. BUT (before everyone says there must be a big problem), he's dry at night. Odd accident when he's drunk loads before bed and not had a last week. So this makes me think he's just being bloody lazy in the daytime.

Often it's just a bit like a leaky tap before he runs to the loo for a massive horse wee.

I am just SO sick of washing pissy pants though. His 3 yo brother can wear the same trousers for days on end. It's just hugely frustrating as I have NO idea why he continues to wet himself and really not even care that much!

HELP!!

This was interesting reading. My 6yr old ds is waiting for an ultrasound as he is still wetting a lot in the day, ftom little patches to full on soaked through.
I go to the loo frequently too though, so maybe it is genetic.

Good luck little

We saw a specialist hv with DD who recommended a detailed diary to track and also check drinking enough. Counterintuitive but drinking too little can cause problems.
Also she explained that in some children the nerves develop late so they might really really not realise.

For all of you with "leaky" children- the Dry like Me training pads are a godsend. No one knows they wear them as the stick into normal,pants, but the catch a lot of small leaks very successfully.

It has made DS so much less anxious about school.

We've got an appointment first thing tomorrow. Seems to have had a bad couple of days since I mentioned going to see the doctor. I really don't want to make this a 'thing', gah. He said to the little girl we look after on a Monday "look X, I have had an accident. I was sat on the mat and remembered I needed a wee but then forgot and look what happened". I had previously said that we didn't need to tell her, no biggy etc.

He then fully wet himself at gymnastics (having refused to wee before we went). When I asked him what had happened he'd said he wasn't allowed to go to the loo when there, which isn't true. Obvs.

I'm going for the 'ignore, no big deal' route but would appreciate any pointers on how to handle. We've not long finished the rigmarole of eye tests - we'd been told initially that he needed them, then not - and I don't want to give him another 'thing' to latch on to.

Thanks

Whatever the reason, and obv GP is a good idea, it's only a bit of extra laundry so fgs don't shame him about it.

Does he have plenty of fluid in his diet?

Any caffeine, citrus or fizzy stuff, all of which can irritate the bladder?

My ds was like this.

In the end I totally ignored it, and if he'd had an accident just quietly changed him with no fuss or emotion. He was just too busy enjoying life to notice until faaaaaar too late he needed to go. Eventually it just stopped (aged 6). By not making it a thing it didn't become one.

Like most other things, it'll pass.....

Littlemilla my son was doing the same. Like you I was utterly convinced it was because he couldn't be bothered going to the loo. One evening last winter he was sitting on the floor putting his pull up on before bed. As he went to put his leg through wee csmevout his willy. I shouted out and he said I didn't know it was coming. I could tell he was telling the truth. We were referred to a urologist. An ultrasound showed that he has a tiny bladder. The consultant said that he believed he probably had an irritable bladder good. He was prescribed Oxybutynin. He is much better now. Btw the accidents my son used to have were small accidents, no sopping wet pants, generally just a wet patch.

Take him to GP. Comparing him to his brother is hardly useful either as all children develop at different rates.

Does he have a sudden urge to go and can't hold it in so leaks a bit but then the urge goes away? I have suffered from an irritable bladder all of my life. One minute I'm fine, next I'm desperate to go for about 20 seconds then the urge to go is gone, not a slow build up like most people. It is controlled quite well with a daily tablet but is horrible. However, I did wet the bed until I was in my teens.

No advice, just sympathy. My DS is similar age and going through much the same.

DS seems to find it amusing "oh, I forgot" rather than distressing. He's doing it at home, not at school. Worse in holidays and weekends.

I'm putting it down to laziness/tiredness. DC2 so frankly, whatever. I've got bigger fish to fry with DC1 and bullying.

Good luck OP.

Poor kid not much older than a toddler. It's more than likely medical. Terrible to shame him or make him feel bad that's shit parenting

DS went through a stage of peeing on the sofa as he was leaving it too late to do a wee. We told him that we would always pause the tv for him, but if he peed on the sofa then the telly would be switched off. We only had to switch it off once...

Sounds as though you need a trip to the GP to rule out medical problems. No harm in telling your DS that a quick wee means he can go back to playing, but a change of clothes and a wash takes longer. Then keeping it calm when it does happen.

So we saw the GP yesterday - not UTI and she had a feel of his tummy but all OK. She has referred him to specialist nonetheless.

Thank you to those offering words of empathy and advice. I remain torn about the reasons - could absolutely be medical, or just too busy.

His younger brother has come back from preschool with sharts in his pants twice this week, so the pissy pants are actually preferred! Ha

Whatever the outcome, we love him dearly and I will obviously continue my laundry in earnest. I hate the thought of him feeling any shame and would like to thank those that flagged that we could inadvertently cause that. Not cool at all.

I can tell you now the GP will do fuck all they don't see children until 7 years old the won't refer you

Try going back to the start and re doing potty training

I can tell you now the GP will do fuck all

It looks like the GP is doing something, & because the story is not typical of a late-developing bedwetter, I expect the consultant will see him & not bounce it straight back

We can only hope! The GP was very sympathetic and whilst she readily admitted that it's not an area she's familiar with, she was happy to refer him to someone that would know more.

I hope you don't let him see your frustration. Glad you are getting the referral.

15 year old still has occasional night time accidents after 9 years of desmo! All studies say it should be sorted by 15 so we are hoping we are at the end of it all.