To not take children wedding dress shopping?

[PigInMuck86]

Sis is getting married next year and wants to go wedding dress shopping in half term. Unfortunately DH is working that week 9 a.m. till 10 p.m. Mon - Sat and we have a trip planned on the Sunday she is here which we cannot change. I have three children aged 8, 6 and 16 months. Sis said to just bring them - it will just be a couple of hours. The 8 and 6 year old i could plug into something but the baby? Shes at that destroy stage and i doubt the fancy bridal shop will be happy with a whirling dervish pulling dresses off hangers. Shes also just dropped her day time nap. No babysitters - my mam who usually helps will be dress shopping too. I explained to my sis and wished her a lovely time. Now she is complaining to my mum i am making up excuses to not be part of the wedding and is apparently very hurt. AIBU?

'Unless IKEA do wedding dresses now'

If your sis says take them them do it. Although I would have hated that when I was dress shopping it's so stressful but everyone's different. It's her fault if she invited them!

Actually, I think you're being quite mean. This is clearly very important to your sister -- if I understand correctly, she's travelled 250 miles for the weekend to look for a wedding dress with you and your mum.

Either get your DH to take the day off, or arrange childcare. If worst comes to worst take them to the shopping centre and hang out in a cafe or something so you can pop into the wedding store to have a quick look at the options she's picked out or something.

You say that the sister is spoilt and is not involving your baby (!) in the wedding. I think this is more about this than the childcare.

Most wedding dress shops I have visited do not allow children at all. Some allowed children on weekday appointments only so recommend you discuss when making appointments

I think auntie needs to take the DC out for a treat. By herself. Without a pushchair. (I wouldn't give the kids shed loads of haribo first, no no no) She might realise what a dick she is being.

or arrange childcare

Not always possible to arrange childcare for 3 children ranging from toddler to 8 year old - even if you have something really urgent like a hospital appointment.

Weddings have lots and lots of 'once in a life time moments'. If you are a relative with children the only one you may be able to attend is the wedding.

Bridezilla needs to realise that fine decisions of one frilly frock over another are not that interesting for anyone else. And expensive white outfits and small messy children are a very poor mix. Anyone with a weeny-teeny brain can realise that

may this be the worst hurt she ever receives....

MyPrivate she is a teacher and is travelling up for the week of half term to catch up with friends. In fact she is also dress shopping where she lives - she has just decided that while she is up here she could get am idea of what suits her. So the dress shopping isn"t the sole reason for her travelling. And DH has to give six months notice for time off (bar illness and emergancy) and my sis announced this on Friday. He could shift swop but that is a pitta and he is the only person in his department at the moment as 1 person quit and the other was promoted. He works for a theatre and without him the show would have to be cancelled. All this i explained to sis. Believe me if i had childcare i would be there, 2 hrs childfree in a half term week sounds bliss.

Slinky thats a plan dd1 has been mithering for coke for ages......

I think you need to take lots of chocolate snacks...

Your feet won't touch the ground as you're ejected from the shop!

Most wedding boutiques now don't allow children except babes in arms unless they're in the wedding and even then they arrange the appointment for the children separate to that for the bride. Reason is they have to buy the dresses for trying on they're non returnable. Also usually takes at least 3 hours and no customer toilets, no food or drink allowed not even water - it marks silk permanently.

(Friend has a boutique).

She's a teacher and she still can't see why wedding dress shopping might be unsuitable for children aged 8, 6 and 16 months??

I just wouldn't enjoy it so I'd say no. "Sorry dsis I won't be able to make it; have a lovely time though!"

Teacher in an all girls secondary in a v rich area. Don't get me wrong those kids have issues but discipline isn't one of them.

Spoke to sis and she has agreed to compromise. Phew! Now to decide what the hell to wear and speak to the museum to figure out which bits nephew will cope with

That's great!

Where whatever you like! (Maybe a bin bag to make your sister look even better?) Glad you have a plan.

Wear!!

No yanbu daft idea?

I went wedding dress shopping with DD when she was 18 mths- parked her in the pushchair 'out of the way' and found her trying on tiaras! Then when the snacks ran out she got out of the pushchair and stood on the train of the dress I was trying on. Think I managed 3 dresses before I cracked and left and that included DM being there to run intereference. Good luck!!